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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 406914" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have adopted four kids. You need to give us more information. I would seriously fire the psychiatrist who gave him the CD diagnosis...what a cop out for such a young child. Likely much more stuff is going on than that.</p><p></p><p>Was your child exposed to drugs or alcohol before he was born? If so, that can and often does cause permanent brain differences. Alcohol use, in particular, can cause fetal alcohol spectrum, which is organic brain damage causing unstable and aggressive behaviors. Often fetal alcohol spectrum children do not understand right from wrong and have no impulse control. It is not their faults. </p><p></p><p>Are the birth parents mentally ill? If so, their genes can be passed on. I'm assuming something is wrong with them for your son to end up in foster care. Although you are raising him is DNA is 50/50 (birthmom/birthfather). </p><p></p><p>It is not uncommon for adopted kids to be whirlwinds of confusing behaviors, especially if they were substance exposed AND thrown around a lot in their infancy. There are some things you can improve and some things you can't, depending. What you really need is a Psychiatrist who understands adopted children who may have been substance abused. I also think a neuropsychologist evaluation will help you immensely. Or a developmental pediatrician. Sounds like this child belongs in Early Education (not the only solution, but one of them). My now seventeen year old son, who came to us at two, started Early Education at three and had help way before that (when he had been in foster care). The difference in how he is vs. how he COULD have been is like night and day. I suggest aggressive help for your child because he is going to need it. I joined a special needs adoption support group w here people at least understood and some had good advice and resources.</p><p></p><p>The best sanity advice I can give you is to not take his behavior personally or as proof that you are a bad parent. You aren't. You inherited a child with a ton of issues that NOBODY could deal with. You are doing as well as anyone could.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 406914, member: 1550"] I have adopted four kids. You need to give us more information. I would seriously fire the psychiatrist who gave him the CD diagnosis...what a cop out for such a young child. Likely much more stuff is going on than that. Was your child exposed to drugs or alcohol before he was born? If so, that can and often does cause permanent brain differences. Alcohol use, in particular, can cause fetal alcohol spectrum, which is organic brain damage causing unstable and aggressive behaviors. Often fetal alcohol spectrum children do not understand right from wrong and have no impulse control. It is not their faults. Are the birth parents mentally ill? If so, their genes can be passed on. I'm assuming something is wrong with them for your son to end up in foster care. Although you are raising him is DNA is 50/50 (birthmom/birthfather). It is not uncommon for adopted kids to be whirlwinds of confusing behaviors, especially if they were substance exposed AND thrown around a lot in their infancy. There are some things you can improve and some things you can't, depending. What you really need is a Psychiatrist who understands adopted children who may have been substance abused. I also think a neuropsychologist evaluation will help you immensely. Or a developmental pediatrician. Sounds like this child belongs in Early Education (not the only solution, but one of them). My now seventeen year old son, who came to us at two, started Early Education at three and had help way before that (when he had been in foster care). The difference in how he is vs. how he COULD have been is like night and day. I suggest aggressive help for your child because he is going to need it. I joined a special needs adoption support group w here people at least understood and some had good advice and resources. The best sanity advice I can give you is to not take his behavior personally or as proof that you are a bad parent. You aren't. You inherited a child with a ton of issues that NOBODY could deal with. You are doing as well as anyone could. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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