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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 673771" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi SF, I am so sorry. This is rough. Definitely one step forward, two steps back. It is very, very, hard. Have you gone to see someone? It took me awhile to figure out that I needed help to deal with all the craziness. The counselor I saw had a bunch of resources and it helped to talk with someone professional, who knew the situation, and had dealt with it before. It is a good idea to find Families Anonymous, Nar-Anon, Al-Anon or CoDa; those groups exist to help people in just your situation.</p><p></p><p>This is hard. I know how you feel. What is a mom supposed to do?</p><p>The first thing addicts are told, is to change patterns and friends.</p><p>But what are the possibilities of that for a 13 year old? Perhaps the groups above, if you seek any out, or a professional, could help here.</p><p> The honesty is good. I wonder too, how many times she has used meth. I do not want to sound like a broken record, but the reality of it is important to understand. We think of meth users, as the pictures on tv, where there are <em>drastic physical changes in a short time</em>, this is the result of <em>heavy </em>use. </p><p>Users, like my daughter, are able to carry on a semblance of normalcy for awhile. When my daughter appears extremely depressed, I know she is not "high". When she is bubbly and functioning, I know she has smoked meth. </p><p>She is not thin, nor does she have rotting teeth. She does have the telltale acne, and is not in her right mind, she has <em>extreme</em> mood changes. </p><p>She does not want help.</p><p>Meth is very hard to test for, the drug doesn't hang around in the body like pot.</p><p>One huge sign, is the incredible craving for meth. Even if used only a couple of times, because of the extreme euphoria, the psychological, and biological changes in the body, a person will be craving meth. That could be why your daughter feels like <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />.</p><p>I am not trying to scare you SF. Just relating facts. This hits close to home, I did not know what was happening to my daughter. She still denies using, to this day.</p><p> When you speak with the resource officer, please share what I have shared with you, and see what the response is. It also helps to search the web, and learn about this drug.</p><p> There is different information about addiction. This is important to learn about, also, so we are aware of what is happening. <em>Knowledge</em> is one of the tools we need in our toolbox to be able to know how to cope, and what steps to take. It is a very complicated challenge. Please speak with the resource officer of your concerns towards the outpatient program. I am sure he has heard this before. Or, you could even call the program, and see what they say.</p><p> This is hard SF. Believe it or not, coming to Hawaii in the 60's,a caucasian, I was a minority. So I know how it feels. There are anti bullying programs in school. If your daughter is being teased about her race, this is bullying. Mention this to the officer, they <em>have</em> to do something about this. It is hard when we are young, to find ourselves, our niche, to fit in. The reality is, this is a skill we need to learn to make us strong adults. The world is not a kind place, and we all have to learn how to stand up for ourselves. Sometimes even we need a little help. Your daughter is learning a tough lesson. Bullying, is unacceptable, and that includes teasing and racial slurs. I am sure you have mentioned this to the school, if it continues, it is up to the <em>school officials </em>to see that it stops. (I work at a school).</p><p> Yes, this may be a solution for her. But.....if you don't get a handle on her drug use, she will go there and find the same crowd. I do not mean to throw a monkey wrench in the plan, but it is true.</p><p> I agree with you, got to get through the mess first.</p><p>You are so strong and such a loving caring warrior mom. Hang in there SF.</p><p>I am rooting for you and your daughter. I hope I have not offended you with the things I have shared.</p><p>I am doing so, because I have been in this boat, with my girls. It is hard to see, when they are in front of us daily. Our mom hearts do not want to think of the worst case scenario. It is important to go into this with eyes wide open and explore all of the possibilities. This, I think you are doing. It was a good thing that you tested your girl.</p><p></p><p>Keep up your strength, make sure you have time for yourself to rebuild.</p><p>please take care</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 673771, member: 19522"] Hi SF, I am so sorry. This is rough. Definitely one step forward, two steps back. It is very, very, hard. Have you gone to see someone? It took me awhile to figure out that I needed help to deal with all the craziness. The counselor I saw had a bunch of resources and it helped to talk with someone professional, who knew the situation, and had dealt with it before. It is a good idea to find Families Anonymous, Nar-Anon, Al-Anon or CoDa; those groups exist to help people in just your situation. This is hard. I know how you feel. What is a mom supposed to do? The first thing addicts are told, is to change patterns and friends. But what are the possibilities of that for a 13 year old? Perhaps the groups above, if you seek any out, or a professional, could help here. The honesty is good. I wonder too, how many times she has used meth. I do not want to sound like a broken record, but the reality of it is important to understand. We think of meth users, as the pictures on tv, where there are [I]drastic physical changes in a short time[/I], this is the result of [I]heavy [/I]use. Users, like my daughter, are able to carry on a semblance of normalcy for awhile. When my daughter appears extremely depressed, I know she is not "high". When she is bubbly and functioning, I know she has smoked meth. She is not thin, nor does she have rotting teeth. She does have the telltale acne, and is not in her right mind, she has [I]extreme[/I] mood changes. She does not want help. Meth is very hard to test for, the drug doesn't hang around in the body like pot. One huge sign, is the incredible craving for meth. Even if used only a couple of times, because of the extreme euphoria, the psychological, and biological changes in the body, a person will be craving meth. That could be why your daughter feels like :censored2:. I am not trying to scare you SF. Just relating facts. This hits close to home, I did not know what was happening to my daughter. She still denies using, to this day. When you speak with the resource officer, please share what I have shared with you, and see what the response is. It also helps to search the web, and learn about this drug. There is different information about addiction. This is important to learn about, also, so we are aware of what is happening. [I]Knowledge[/I] is one of the tools we need in our toolbox to be able to know how to cope, and what steps to take. It is a very complicated challenge. Please speak with the resource officer of your concerns towards the outpatient program. I am sure he has heard this before. Or, you could even call the program, and see what they say. This is hard SF. Believe it or not, coming to Hawaii in the 60's,a caucasian, I was a minority. So I know how it feels. There are anti bullying programs in school. If your daughter is being teased about her race, this is bullying. Mention this to the officer, they [I]have[/I] to do something about this. It is hard when we are young, to find ourselves, our niche, to fit in. The reality is, this is a skill we need to learn to make us strong adults. The world is not a kind place, and we all have to learn how to stand up for ourselves. Sometimes even we need a little help. Your daughter is learning a tough lesson. Bullying, is unacceptable, and that includes teasing and racial slurs. I am sure you have mentioned this to the school, if it continues, it is up to the [I]school officials [/I]to see that it stops. (I work at a school). Yes, this may be a solution for her. But.....if you don't get a handle on her drug use, she will go there and find the same crowd. I do not mean to throw a monkey wrench in the plan, but it is true. I agree with you, got to get through the mess first. You are so strong and such a loving caring warrior mom. Hang in there SF. I am rooting for you and your daughter. I hope I have not offended you with the things I have shared. I am doing so, because I have been in this boat, with my girls. It is hard to see, when they are in front of us daily. Our mom hearts do not want to think of the worst case scenario. It is important to go into this with eyes wide open and explore all of the possibilities. This, I think you are doing. It was a good thing that you tested your girl. Keep up your strength, make sure you have time for yourself to rebuild. please take care (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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