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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 85422" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think this issue is completely difficult child centered. Might even be less of the wife's fault than you currently think.</p><p></p><p>If this is an extreme church, been there done that with my own Mom, well they usually attract people who crave to be a part of something they see as "special", or apart from everyone else so they themselves can also feel special. Whether it's to feel Better than others, or just apart from others.</p><p></p><p>My Mom will fall for this set up every single time, while all it does for me is to completely turn me off. We are opposites in personality makeup.</p><p></p><p>Wife probably isn't helping much, but he's making his own decisions.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, sometimes years later, dear ol' Mom will come to her senses until another such church strikes her fancy. She's just recently come to her senses about one of the most fanatical churches I've come across in a long time. Took her 20 yrs. This one had her but good.</p><p></p><p>The point I'm trying to make is, something about the church/religion/ whatever is forfilling a need of difficult child's. It could've been triggered by the adoption, no matter that he had a wonderful life and loving caring parents. But my mother wasn't adopted and STILL has this sort of issue but bad. It's part of her personality makeup.</p><p></p><p>As far as I'm concerned, it's just as bad as a drug addiction. Almost the same mentality. While in the midst of religious/or whatever fevor you can't reach them.</p><p></p><p>Lucky me, husband also has this personality. I keep him as far away from organized religions as possible. He'd go fanatical on me in a heartbeat.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line. It's not you. It's not his sibs. Like a drug, nothing matters to him right now except people, things that support or aide this fanatical fevored sense of Belonging to something Special.</p><p></p><p>I know it hurts you so much. And I keep praying it won't take him long to come to his senses.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 85422, member: 84"] I think this issue is completely difficult child centered. Might even be less of the wife's fault than you currently think. If this is an extreme church, been there done that with my own Mom, well they usually attract people who crave to be a part of something they see as "special", or apart from everyone else so they themselves can also feel special. Whether it's to feel Better than others, or just apart from others. My Mom will fall for this set up every single time, while all it does for me is to completely turn me off. We are opposites in personality makeup. Wife probably isn't helping much, but he's making his own decisions. Eventually, sometimes years later, dear ol' Mom will come to her senses until another such church strikes her fancy. She's just recently come to her senses about one of the most fanatical churches I've come across in a long time. Took her 20 yrs. This one had her but good. The point I'm trying to make is, something about the church/religion/ whatever is forfilling a need of difficult child's. It could've been triggered by the adoption, no matter that he had a wonderful life and loving caring parents. But my mother wasn't adopted and STILL has this sort of issue but bad. It's part of her personality makeup. As far as I'm concerned, it's just as bad as a drug addiction. Almost the same mentality. While in the midst of religious/or whatever fevor you can't reach them. Lucky me, husband also has this personality. I keep him as far away from organized religions as possible. He'd go fanatical on me in a heartbeat. Bottom line. It's not you. It's not his sibs. Like a drug, nothing matters to him right now except people, things that support or aide this fanatical fevored sense of Belonging to something Special. I know it hurts you so much. And I keep praying it won't take him long to come to his senses. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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