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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 85789" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks. First of all, Martie, I don't remembering that we disagreed about adoption...lol. I don't believe an infant gets Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), but that's it. This child came at six. I know he's deeply affected by the adoption, and I've sensed that he is trying to find himself both by marrying into a family of his roots (Chinese) and in joining an extremely religious group. Whether it's a cult or not, I couldn't judge because I have only gone to mainstream churches. I never ever said anything bad to my son about his religion, but it has taken over his life. Maybe it's to hide behind. I don't know. I don't use words like Fundie to him. I've asked him to explain his beliefs. Many doom me. I've been divorced and not over adultry. Janet, I know he isn't sure they want kids because before he cornered himself up with K. he still talked a lot to me (in fact, he told me all about her and was very excited about her). He told me he wasn't sure either she or him needed or wanted kids in their lives. I pray every day they don't have any. They are both so rigid, I can't imagine them raising a happy child, and my son is obviously not comfortable with himself. However, I never told him I didn't want him to have kids. I always said I wanted grandchildren, and I do! (I'm expecting Grandchild #1 in March from biological son!)</p><p>The breaking from the family was very abrupt and shortly after we met his future wife. Maybe she thinks we aren't Godly enough. He is crazy about her, he maybe is doing anything she asks, but, of course, at least part of this is his wishes.</p><p>I'm also puzzled about "honor thy mother and father." He's NOT! Nor his sisters and brothers! I was told that some churches discourage members from circulating with non-members (their idea of a non-believer). I wondered if it could be that. </p><p>I am VERY sad about this and would never adopt an older child again. The bond isn't the same to them as if you'd had them from a young age. He was always very distant, unlike my other kids, and yet I still love him so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 85789, member: 1550"] Thanks. First of all, Martie, I don't remembering that we disagreed about adoption...lol. I don't believe an infant gets Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), but that's it. This child came at six. I know he's deeply affected by the adoption, and I've sensed that he is trying to find himself both by marrying into a family of his roots (Chinese) and in joining an extremely religious group. Whether it's a cult or not, I couldn't judge because I have only gone to mainstream churches. I never ever said anything bad to my son about his religion, but it has taken over his life. Maybe it's to hide behind. I don't know. I don't use words like Fundie to him. I've asked him to explain his beliefs. Many doom me. I've been divorced and not over adultry. Janet, I know he isn't sure they want kids because before he cornered himself up with K. he still talked a lot to me (in fact, he told me all about her and was very excited about her). He told me he wasn't sure either she or him needed or wanted kids in their lives. I pray every day they don't have any. They are both so rigid, I can't imagine them raising a happy child, and my son is obviously not comfortable with himself. However, I never told him I didn't want him to have kids. I always said I wanted grandchildren, and I do! (I'm expecting Grandchild #1 in March from biological son!) The breaking from the family was very abrupt and shortly after we met his future wife. Maybe she thinks we aren't Godly enough. He is crazy about her, he maybe is doing anything she asks, but, of course, at least part of this is his wishes. I'm also puzzled about "honor thy mother and father." He's NOT! Nor his sisters and brothers! I was told that some churches discourage members from circulating with non-members (their idea of a non-believer). I wondered if it could be that. I am VERY sad about this and would never adopt an older child again. The bond isn't the same to them as if you'd had them from a young age. He was always very distant, unlike my other kids, and yet I still love him so much. [/QUOTE]
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