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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar II" data-source="post: 108460" data-attributes="member: 4391"><p>That was an excellent idea Suz presented. Anything to get us out of panic mode so we can think what to do next.</p><p></p><p>That is the thing with our kids.</p><p></p><p>You never do know what they are going to come up with next, and you find yourself doing things you would never allow in any other situation.</p><p></p><p>A workable Plan B and a Plan C too, is not a bad idea.</p><p></p><p>Not a bad idea at all.</p><p></p><p>Suz helped me once with phrases I could use to defuse situations as they came up. It sounds foolish I know, but those phrases were life savers for me.</p><p></p><p>It seems like I never know what to say because I hate to say no and I don't want to be rude.</p><p></p><p>Crazy, huh?</p><p></p><p>True, though. </p><p></p><p>Good phrases for me were: </p><p></p><p>"I will think about that." </p><p></p><p>"If an answer is needed now, then the answer is no."</p><p></p><p>"Oh, that's too bad, honey! What are you going to do?"</p><p></p><p>"Oh, that's too bad, honey! I know you will figure it out, though."</p><p></p><p>What I found is that these so-subtle changes in me changed the dynamic of the relationship AND MY difficult child WAS ACTUALLY STRUCK SPEECHLESS ONCE FOR ABOUT TWO MINUTES! :smile:</p><p></p><p>Yep.</p><p></p><p>Biatch on wheels ~ that's me.</p><p></p><p>:gingerbread:</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar II, post: 108460, member: 4391"] That was an excellent idea Suz presented. Anything to get us out of panic mode so we can think what to do next. That is the thing with our kids. You never do know what they are going to come up with next, and you find yourself doing things you would never allow in any other situation. A workable Plan B and a Plan C too, is not a bad idea. Not a bad idea at all. Suz helped me once with phrases I could use to defuse situations as they came up. It sounds foolish I know, but those phrases were life savers for me. It seems like I never know what to say because I hate to say no and I don't want to be rude. Crazy, huh? True, though. Good phrases for me were: "I will think about that." "If an answer is needed now, then the answer is no." "Oh, that's too bad, honey! What are you going to do?" "Oh, that's too bad, honey! I know you will figure it out, though." What I found is that these so-subtle changes in me changed the dynamic of the relationship AND MY difficult child WAS ACTUALLY STRUCK SPEECHLESS ONCE FOR ABOUT TWO MINUTES! [img]:smile:[/img] Yep. Biatch on wheels ~ that's me. [img]:gingerbread:[/img] Barbara [/QUOTE]
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