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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 615485" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>It is actually quite hard to figure out what the action consequences are! His public defender told me that she usually does felonies and so is not really conversant with the various ins and outs of cases at his level, and also that she herself would not be the one in court with him. My friend the PD also said that he is not fully conversatn with the rules at this level, and also that the rules had gotten stricter about a year ago after a "reveal" article in the city newspaper, so even what he used to know he doesn't know. Soo......my impression is that if no one (ha! that was good! I typed "I" 3x, but there are other people who could post bail too!) posts bail, then he will be in prison for 20 days minimum, till Jan 5. In the middle of that 20 days (Dec 30) he has a court date. If he doesn't have $1500 to pay off a previous plea bargain, the judge will make a decision on that--additional jail, time served, probation, whatever, I do not know.</p><p>If some one does post bail he can get out on Dec 26 (10 days served) and go to court on the 30th for whatever decision the judge makes that day.</p><p></p><p>But no one actually seems sure. </p><p></p><p>That is crazy, right? That no one knows??? Even highly competent controlling me can't get to the bottom of it...another lesson in detachment. I can't control the prison system.</p><p></p><p>I told him yestarday that I was not planning to post bail...lot of distressed sputtering on his end, and we ended by him saying he would find some one who actually knew the ins and outs and consequences. I agreed to talk to that person should they exist.</p><p></p><p>I told him I was thinking of HELPING him with the $1500. I asked how much he had in the bank (in the last 2 weeks he has told me$1100, $200, and this time zero). He gets $490 or something for SSI the first week of the month. I asked how he would pay me back and he said he would give me his bank card and ID and I could control his account till he paid me back. I asked what he would do about housing and he said he would go straight to the one "help" location I've been trying to get him to. I asked about caseworkers (he said yes) and taking his medications (yes). Lotta yesses. He will do all for about 3 days, I suspect. Of course he can cancel his bankcard or tell them it is lost. </p><p></p><p>We shall see. I won't be in court with him because I was taking the other 3 PCs and some of their friends to the mountains with my SO, and we've all been looking forward to it. He isn't allowed to negatively impact all. My ex is committed at work, so he won't be there either. No parents to talk earnestly with the PD and try to sort things out while difficult child sits by passively. That tugs at my heart, but is just as well. </p><p></p><p>I bought him socks and underwear from the commisary--I didn't realize I could do that until others mentioned it in posts here, so thank you for that. </p><p></p><p>Thats all. Imma gonna need to post frequently to get through this....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 615485, member: 17269"] It is actually quite hard to figure out what the action consequences are! His public defender told me that she usually does felonies and so is not really conversant with the various ins and outs of cases at his level, and also that she herself would not be the one in court with him. My friend the PD also said that he is not fully conversatn with the rules at this level, and also that the rules had gotten stricter about a year ago after a "reveal" article in the city newspaper, so even what he used to know he doesn't know. Soo......my impression is that if no one (ha! that was good! I typed "I" 3x, but there are other people who could post bail too!) posts bail, then he will be in prison for 20 days minimum, till Jan 5. In the middle of that 20 days (Dec 30) he has a court date. If he doesn't have $1500 to pay off a previous plea bargain, the judge will make a decision on that--additional jail, time served, probation, whatever, I do not know. If some one does post bail he can get out on Dec 26 (10 days served) and go to court on the 30th for whatever decision the judge makes that day. But no one actually seems sure. That is crazy, right? That no one knows??? Even highly competent controlling me can't get to the bottom of it...another lesson in detachment. I can't control the prison system. I told him yestarday that I was not planning to post bail...lot of distressed sputtering on his end, and we ended by him saying he would find some one who actually knew the ins and outs and consequences. I agreed to talk to that person should they exist. I told him I was thinking of HELPING him with the $1500. I asked how much he had in the bank (in the last 2 weeks he has told me$1100, $200, and this time zero). He gets $490 or something for SSI the first week of the month. I asked how he would pay me back and he said he would give me his bank card and ID and I could control his account till he paid me back. I asked what he would do about housing and he said he would go straight to the one "help" location I've been trying to get him to. I asked about caseworkers (he said yes) and taking his medications (yes). Lotta yesses. He will do all for about 3 days, I suspect. Of course he can cancel his bankcard or tell them it is lost. We shall see. I won't be in court with him because I was taking the other 3 PCs and some of their friends to the mountains with my SO, and we've all been looking forward to it. He isn't allowed to negatively impact all. My ex is committed at work, so he won't be there either. No parents to talk earnestly with the PD and try to sort things out while difficult child sits by passively. That tugs at my heart, but is just as well. I bought him socks and underwear from the commisary--I didn't realize I could do that until others mentioned it in posts here, so thank you for that. Thats all. Imma gonna need to post frequently to get through this.... [/QUOTE]
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