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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 615487" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Huff, I understand that feeling. I first started having it when my difficult child would have acute psychiatric hospitalizations...the first time was so awful, so horrifying...all those crazy people and my sweet boy in there with them, in laceless shoes with no belt...and then....as it happened over and over...I started realizing that I didn't have to worry while he was there, couldn't control his days...and it felt kind of good. My SO had a severely mentally ill mom, and his parents split when he was 8, so from 13 on he was her caretaker, picking her up when she was naked down by the 7-11, driving up and down the highway looking for her when she was missing, unpacking her house and bags when she would pack up to "move". He was the one who put words to it for me, told me to rest while he was in the hospital, let some one else take it on. He (difficult child) was younger then, and he really was my responsibility.</p><p></p><p>One of my first reactions when I found out he was in jail was that I wouldn't have to worry about walking down the street and seeing him sitting on a mat with a cup and a sign (which I have seen on several occasions), or showing up at my office...once I came to work and he was asleep on the couch in my office reception area, dirty and smelly like any street person. That was horrifying. Jail is less horrifying. He won't die a drug induced death there. And he won't freeze to death. And I won't see him. He won't ring my doorbell. He does call 5 x/day....but that is small potatoes, and I don't ahve to answer. I have a limit of twice/day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 615487, member: 17269"] Huff, I understand that feeling. I first started having it when my difficult child would have acute psychiatric hospitalizations...the first time was so awful, so horrifying...all those crazy people and my sweet boy in there with them, in laceless shoes with no belt...and then....as it happened over and over...I started realizing that I didn't have to worry while he was there, couldn't control his days...and it felt kind of good. My SO had a severely mentally ill mom, and his parents split when he was 8, so from 13 on he was her caretaker, picking her up when she was naked down by the 7-11, driving up and down the highway looking for her when she was missing, unpacking her house and bags when she would pack up to "move". He was the one who put words to it for me, told me to rest while he was in the hospital, let some one else take it on. He (difficult child) was younger then, and he really was my responsibility. One of my first reactions when I found out he was in jail was that I wouldn't have to worry about walking down the street and seeing him sitting on a mat with a cup and a sign (which I have seen on several occasions), or showing up at my office...once I came to work and he was asleep on the couch in my office reception area, dirty and smelly like any street person. That was horrifying. Jail is less horrifying. He won't die a drug induced death there. And he won't freeze to death. And I won't see him. He won't ring my doorbell. He does call 5 x/day....but that is small potatoes, and I don't ahve to answer. I have a limit of twice/day. [/QUOTE]
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