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Canceling Christmas...has anyone done this?
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 106701" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I have thought about it more than once with my boys too...but not when they quite as young as yours. Ok, maybe I thought about it back then, I cant really remember. I know I didnt ever do it even when I got so furious that I tossed the fully decorated tree out the front door on them. </p><p></p><p>I never had the guts or whatever it is to take away holidays as a punishment. Even in all the placements Cory had they didnt do that. They may not get to go home, they may have to stay on campus, get on site visits with family, paired down lists...but there was always a holiday. </p><p></p><p>I understand about what you are saying about not wanting them to use their disability as an excuse. I believe the same thing. I am adamant that bipolar is not a get out of jail free card. It is not an excuse of bad behavior...most of the time. I use that caveat because it can be an explanation for some behavior some of the time...not an excuse but an explanation. There is a difference.</p><p></p><p>Your boys are still very young. You have years to drill this into them. What you do for Xmas 2007 isnt going to decide if they become jailbirds in 10 years. They wont connect those dots. I can tell you they will remember the good things in their lives from this age. Trust me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 106701, member: 1514"] I have thought about it more than once with my boys too...but not when they quite as young as yours. Ok, maybe I thought about it back then, I cant really remember. I know I didnt ever do it even when I got so furious that I tossed the fully decorated tree out the front door on them. I never had the guts or whatever it is to take away holidays as a punishment. Even in all the placements Cory had they didnt do that. They may not get to go home, they may have to stay on campus, get on site visits with family, paired down lists...but there was always a holiday. I understand about what you are saying about not wanting them to use their disability as an excuse. I believe the same thing. I am adamant that bipolar is not a get out of jail free card. It is not an excuse of bad behavior...most of the time. I use that caveat because it can be an explanation for some behavior some of the time...not an excuse but an explanation. There is a difference. Your boys are still very young. You have years to drill this into them. What you do for Xmas 2007 isnt going to decide if they become jailbirds in 10 years. They wont connect those dots. I can tell you they will remember the good things in their lives from this age. Trust me. [/QUOTE]
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