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Canceling Christmas...has anyone done this?
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<blockquote data-quote="shaile" data-source="post: 106727" data-attributes="member: 4123"><p>What you do in order to survive with your difficult child's and keep yourself as whole as possible is what you have to do, and no judgement from this end would ever come. There is a extreme amount of pressure on parents to follow suit in regards to the Christmas hype, and sorry but even 30 plus years ago when I was still a kid..the whole meaning of Christmas was never there. It was about the presents, and what we were getting. It never mattered how many times the story was told. Not to mention to that many families do not believe in Christmas to begin with, and I find them not to be cruel. My parents stopped doing Christmas when I was 13 because they became Jehovah's Witness's. Never once was I traumatized as a result of it.</p><p></p><p>If you enjoy Christmas..then I'd say try to avoid taking that away..but do it because of you, and your need to avoid allowing the difficult child's to take more pleasures from you or ability to share that pleasure with them.</p><p></p><p>If you enjoy it and want it..then to retain your control maybe you can try to allow it back on based on their earning it back. A hour or 30 minutes (whatever they can handle) of being nice will get them the tree, then decorations, then a present. Something along that line where they have to actually work to get it back but yet not take forever and a day so that you don't become over taxed during the process.</p><p></p><p>The whole going to give gifts to those less fortunate is definetely a good idea though for any kid. </p><p></p><p>Good Luck to you with it and lots of Hugs.</p><p></p><p>shaile</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="shaile, post: 106727, member: 4123"] What you do in order to survive with your difficult child's and keep yourself as whole as possible is what you have to do, and no judgement from this end would ever come. There is a extreme amount of pressure on parents to follow suit in regards to the Christmas hype, and sorry but even 30 plus years ago when I was still a kid..the whole meaning of Christmas was never there. It was about the presents, and what we were getting. It never mattered how many times the story was told. Not to mention to that many families do not believe in Christmas to begin with, and I find them not to be cruel. My parents stopped doing Christmas when I was 13 because they became Jehovah's Witness's. Never once was I traumatized as a result of it. If you enjoy Christmas..then I'd say try to avoid taking that away..but do it because of you, and your need to avoid allowing the difficult child's to take more pleasures from you or ability to share that pleasure with them. If you enjoy it and want it..then to retain your control maybe you can try to allow it back on based on their earning it back. A hour or 30 minutes (whatever they can handle) of being nice will get them the tree, then decorations, then a present. Something along that line where they have to actually work to get it back but yet not take forever and a day so that you don't become over taxed during the process. The whole going to give gifts to those less fortunate is definetely a good idea though for any kid. Good Luck to you with it and lots of Hugs. shaile [/QUOTE]
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