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Cannot STAND the manipulators in this family.
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 435986" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Oh their guilt hold is VERY strong. And the problem is that they are sooo subtle, so passive about it, husband doesn't realize what a codependent mess he's in along with the rest of his sibs.</p><p></p><p>Daisy, you hit the nail on the head: They want to clear their conscience by hearing ME tell them when to come over. SO juvenile. SO transparent. SO DISGUSTING.</p><p></p><p>Sigh. Well it's for ONE night, and I'm not going to kill myself to clean up the guest room. I'll have husband help move the piles of junk so they can get to the beds, but that's IT. And I'm not ENTERTAINING them. They can tag along with whatever we do on the 4th, which is usually our free city fireworks show at the park.</p><p></p><p>Right now, they are uncomfortable staying at their #2 daughter's house because her husband is being "MEAN" to them. I asked husband what he meant by that. Here's what's been going on:</p><p></p><p>Apparently they (the daughter and her parents) went back to a casino last weekend (no doubt the daughter gave them money) and this time they won about $1300. Then they invited husband to meet them for breakfast, and the daughter (who's self esteem seems to be wrapped up in her ability to buy stuff for her parents) picked up the parents' breakfast. Her husband was ticked that the parents didn't use some of their winnings to pay for their own meal (they've had pretty much EVERYTHING bought for them by their kids since they've been out here the past month).</p><p></p><p>Furthermore, the inlaws and daughter gave her husband crap when he bought himself a golf club a few weeks ago AND when he mentioned he'd like to retire soon (he's in his late 50s and is a field tech for commercial heating/air -- a very physically demanding job that's taking a toll on him now -- PLUS he works weekends to keep their family afloat). Yet the daughter/wife has racked up over $25,000 in credit card debt with her reckless and impulsive spending, has spent SO much time gambling at the casino that she's earned enough points for free hotel nights (she's given her parents FIVE hotel nights just during this trip out here), and even went out and bought herself a new car without consulting her husband!!! And they all have the gall to criticize him. Yeah, I think I'd be "MEAN" like that, too.</p><p></p><p>What is WRONG with these people???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 435986, member: 3444"] Oh their guilt hold is VERY strong. And the problem is that they are sooo subtle, so passive about it, husband doesn't realize what a codependent mess he's in along with the rest of his sibs. Daisy, you hit the nail on the head: They want to clear their conscience by hearing ME tell them when to come over. SO juvenile. SO transparent. SO DISGUSTING. Sigh. Well it's for ONE night, and I'm not going to kill myself to clean up the guest room. I'll have husband help move the piles of junk so they can get to the beds, but that's IT. And I'm not ENTERTAINING them. They can tag along with whatever we do on the 4th, which is usually our free city fireworks show at the park. Right now, they are uncomfortable staying at their #2 daughter's house because her husband is being "MEAN" to them. I asked husband what he meant by that. Here's what's been going on: Apparently they (the daughter and her parents) went back to a casino last weekend (no doubt the daughter gave them money) and this time they won about $1300. Then they invited husband to meet them for breakfast, and the daughter (who's self esteem seems to be wrapped up in her ability to buy stuff for her parents) picked up the parents' breakfast. Her husband was ticked that the parents didn't use some of their winnings to pay for their own meal (they've had pretty much EVERYTHING bought for them by their kids since they've been out here the past month). Furthermore, the inlaws and daughter gave her husband crap when he bought himself a golf club a few weeks ago AND when he mentioned he'd like to retire soon (he's in his late 50s and is a field tech for commercial heating/air -- a very physically demanding job that's taking a toll on him now -- PLUS he works weekends to keep their family afloat). Yet the daughter/wife has racked up over $25,000 in credit card debt with her reckless and impulsive spending, has spent SO much time gambling at the casino that she's earned enough points for free hotel nights (she's given her parents FIVE hotel nights just during this trip out here), and even went out and bought herself a new car without consulting her husband!!! And they all have the gall to criticize him. Yeah, I think I'd be "MEAN" like that, too. What is WRONG with these people??? [/QUOTE]
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