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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 141141" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>It's a dream I share with you. Personally, most of the fights we have with McWeedy like this wouldn't occur if he was <strong>truly</strong> responsible for feeding, clothing, and transporting himself. Other than the obvious fights over his substance abuse, most fights occur because of his "acting out". In our house, that means acting in a disrespectful, disruptive, or dangerous way, or demanding "entitlements" from us when he gives nothing back in return.</p><p></p><p>If he were to move out, most of the non-drugs/booze fights would end. If he's living on his own, I don't care if his room's a mess - we don't have to clean it just to stay sane. We don't have to worry about him changing clothes three times a day - we don't wash his clothes, nor do we pay for the hot water to wash them with. It goes on, but that's my point.</p><p></p><p>wife and I disagree on this, but I hope and pray for the day that McW finally moves out. Within that first month, he'll learn that all the things he fought with us about come at a price - to the ones who provide, not the one who consumes. When he becomes the person who has to "provide" instead of just being the ungrateful consumer who "demands", I hope his outlook will change - at least about how he views his family.</p><p></p><p>And, maybe then, without the other stress we can be "buddies", and maybe even repair some of the damage done to our relationship. It may be a pipe dream, but it's <em>my</em> pipe dream, and I'll hold on to it until it either happens or I'm convinced it <strong>won't</strong> happen.</p><p></p><p>We all have to have some hope that it can get better; separate from his drugging/boozing, this is my hope for McWeedy.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 141141, member: 3579"] It's a dream I share with you. Personally, most of the fights we have with McWeedy like this wouldn't occur if he was [B]truly[/B] responsible for feeding, clothing, and transporting himself. Other than the obvious fights over his substance abuse, most fights occur because of his "acting out". In our house, that means acting in a disrespectful, disruptive, or dangerous way, or demanding "entitlements" from us when he gives nothing back in return. If he were to move out, most of the non-drugs/booze fights would end. If he's living on his own, I don't care if his room's a mess - we don't have to clean it just to stay sane. We don't have to worry about him changing clothes three times a day - we don't wash his clothes, nor do we pay for the hot water to wash them with. It goes on, but that's my point. wife and I disagree on this, but I hope and pray for the day that McW finally moves out. Within that first month, he'll learn that all the things he fought with us about come at a price - to the ones who provide, not the one who consumes. When he becomes the person who has to "provide" instead of just being the ungrateful consumer who "demands", I hope his outlook will change - at least about how he views his family. And, maybe then, without the other stress we can be "buddies", and maybe even repair some of the damage done to our relationship. It may be a pipe dream, but it's [I]my[/I] pipe dream, and I'll hold on to it until it either happens or I'm convinced it [B]won't[/B] happen. We all have to have some hope that it can get better; separate from his drugging/boozing, this is my hope for McWeedy. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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