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Can't even get him to brush his teeth! Am I totally ineffective as a parent?!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 475913" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a different take on it. If you have read Ross Greene's "The Explosive child" you would know he has baskets A, B and C. You pick the battles you think are worth it and let the other ones slide.</p><p></p><p>Now I think your son should brush his teeth. I also know, from having an Asperger's son who hates to brush his teeth or bathe, that there is no way to make them do it if they dig in their heels and decide not to. One thing I'd do, which I think is harmless, is buy more of the toothpaste that Poe likes. It's to me not a huge deal that it got dropped and stepped on and if it was my kid I'd rather he have the type of toothpaste he can tolerate than have him not brush his teeth. You may need to test Poe for part of the autism spectrum as they are very sensitive to tastes, textures, etc. and some of them DO rage a lot. Unfortunately, although this does not apply to all spectrum kids, but some just don't care about hygiene no matter how you explain the whys to them. My son who doesn't like to brush is currently working on getting twelve teeth filled and he hates it. Like somebody said, natural consequences. At eighteen, I can't force him to brush.</p><p></p><p>On a more hopeful note, I adopted one child who had lived in an orphanage and had no dental care at all and probably was not forced to brush. He has never had a cavity in his life. A lot of that is genetic. </p><p></p><p>Good luck and keep us posted on what happens. The hygiene bit is a battle I've fought long and hard, but, in the end, if Sonic chooses not to smell good, he will suffer natural consequences for that. We tried and tried and he still doesn't care. That's probably his biggest deficit...he doesn't seem to understand that others don't appreciate people who don't smell bad. Either that, or he doesn't care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 475913, member: 1550"] I have a different take on it. If you have read Ross Greene's "The Explosive child" you would know he has baskets A, B and C. You pick the battles you think are worth it and let the other ones slide. Now I think your son should brush his teeth. I also know, from having an Asperger's son who hates to brush his teeth or bathe, that there is no way to make them do it if they dig in their heels and decide not to. One thing I'd do, which I think is harmless, is buy more of the toothpaste that Poe likes. It's to me not a huge deal that it got dropped and stepped on and if it was my kid I'd rather he have the type of toothpaste he can tolerate than have him not brush his teeth. You may need to test Poe for part of the autism spectrum as they are very sensitive to tastes, textures, etc. and some of them DO rage a lot. Unfortunately, although this does not apply to all spectrum kids, but some just don't care about hygiene no matter how you explain the whys to them. My son who doesn't like to brush is currently working on getting twelve teeth filled and he hates it. Like somebody said, natural consequences. At eighteen, I can't force him to brush. On a more hopeful note, I adopted one child who had lived in an orphanage and had no dental care at all and probably was not forced to brush. He has never had a cavity in his life. A lot of that is genetic. Good luck and keep us posted on what happens. The hygiene bit is a battle I've fought long and hard, but, in the end, if Sonic chooses not to smell good, he will suffer natural consequences for that. We tried and tried and he still doesn't care. That's probably his biggest deficit...he doesn't seem to understand that others don't appreciate people who don't smell bad. Either that, or he doesn't care. [/QUOTE]
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