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Can't even get him to brush his teeth! Am I totally ineffective as a parent?!
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 476655" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Ugh. Wow this post brought back memories of my earlier years here on the board. My Matt was wretched about hygiene. I well remember he wars and all the various methods I tried. His resistance and he blow out fights. The times I moved one then another and another thing to Basket C to save my sanity. He would wear dirty clothes from the floor, or the same thing for days. Teeth brushing was as rare as sighting Santas sleigh. Deodorant was something that disappeared on his bedroom or locker to be constantly replaced and then magically disappear again. About the only thing he did was use facial products during his acne phase but he did so to stop the pain from his outbreaks. Showers? We're for other people and his hair was long and dirty and nasty. </p><p></p><p>The good news? I let it go but he grew into common sense. When I let it go I did so with some basics. Family functions, family outings for shopping or meals meant he could participate only after showering, deodorant, clean clothes and cleaning his teeth. Otherwise he missed out. He complied under those circumstances. </p><p></p><p>Now at 18 this is a embarrassing history we love him enough to not talk about or tease about. He takes good care of his hygiene and the only reminder o how it was is teeth staining. He now lives across the country with his girlfriend. Works, joined a men's basketball league, owns a home, is saving for a car and is starting to be a snappy dresser. So it can and does pass for many/most. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad I stopped the battles. Back then there were bigger fish to fry with his other issues. </p><p></p><p>I've told him that if gets a good teeth cleaning on his own and fixes any cavities should he have any, that I will pay for professional restoration/whitening for his next birthday. If he is now good to take care of his teeth I'm more than happy to help that last step to undoing the staining from those rough years as I feel he has earned it and come so far.</p><p></p><p>You are so not alone in this battle and so not a bad parent</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 476655, member: 4264"] Ugh. Wow this post brought back memories of my earlier years here on the board. My Matt was wretched about hygiene. I well remember he wars and all the various methods I tried. His resistance and he blow out fights. The times I moved one then another and another thing to Basket C to save my sanity. He would wear dirty clothes from the floor, or the same thing for days. Teeth brushing was as rare as sighting Santas sleigh. Deodorant was something that disappeared on his bedroom or locker to be constantly replaced and then magically disappear again. About the only thing he did was use facial products during his acne phase but he did so to stop the pain from his outbreaks. Showers? We're for other people and his hair was long and dirty and nasty. The good news? I let it go but he grew into common sense. When I let it go I did so with some basics. Family functions, family outings for shopping or meals meant he could participate only after showering, deodorant, clean clothes and cleaning his teeth. Otherwise he missed out. He complied under those circumstances. Now at 18 this is a embarrassing history we love him enough to not talk about or tease about. He takes good care of his hygiene and the only reminder o how it was is teeth staining. He now lives across the country with his girlfriend. Works, joined a men's basketball league, owns a home, is saving for a car and is starting to be a snappy dresser. So it can and does pass for many/most. I'm glad I stopped the battles. Back then there were bigger fish to fry with his other issues. I've told him that if gets a good teeth cleaning on his own and fixes any cavities should he have any, that I will pay for professional restoration/whitening for his next birthday. If he is now good to take care of his teeth I'm more than happy to help that last step to undoing the staining from those rough years as I feel he has earned it and come so far. You are so not alone in this battle and so not a bad parent [/QUOTE]
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