How on earth do I get this kid to do anything she is told or anything on her own for that matter??? She is 17 and I still have to nag her to pick up after herself. She will drop her clothes anywhere she sees fit, she makes a mess in every room of our home and doesnt care if we get upset. When I say mess, I mean MESS!!! For instance, my bathroom, the room in the house I hate to go in, she wrecks it, after she puts her make up on her face she wipes her hands on my walls. I have make up stains all over my bathroom walls, she leaves her things all over, hair all in the sink, she lets her pony tails and bobby pins fall down the drain, I have had to unclog my sink numerous times. She wipes hair products all over the place, on my mirror, on the sink and even on my shower curtain. Her dirty clothes are always left on the floor in the bathroom (among other places). Her room, oh please, it looks like she was robbed. She has the top floor all too herself. It's an attic room and on the side of her room is my storage area. Wrecked!!!! Her room (when she doesnt live here) is beautiful, nicely decorated for a teenager. She does not take any pride in her surroundings whatsoever, you cant even see the floor, clothes everywhere, garbage, food, all of my dishes and glasses, cigarette butts everywhere and she completely destroyed my storage area, I had it put together nicely, packed in the corner were bags of clothes, winter and summer, separated and packed away for future use. I have my christmas things put away and just some other things I am saving, kids memories and such. She has destroyed that area as well. Stuff everywhere, clothes cover the floor, you can barely get upstairs as her trail leads down the steps. She is a pig!!!! Not only is she a lazy slob, but we have to hide our things as she just takes what she wants. She was using my husbands expensive cologne like body spray. We repeatedly told her not too, a million times until finally we had to hide them. She doesnt care who it belongs to or how much it cost, if she wants to use it she will just take it. It drives me nuts!!! I just hate living with her. God forgive me, I do. No matter what we do, she doesnt change. We are doing the tough love thing, she gets nothing from us. I havent bought her anything for summer. She does need clothes, but I dont care, she aint getting them until she starts to do right!!!! She begs me everyday for clothes and sneakers and perfume and everything else under the sun. We tell her, when she cleans up her room and respects the rights of others and learns her boundaries, then she will start getting things again. Its been about 3 months, she must like not getting anything cause she hasnt changed a bit!!! We dont give her any money either. I honestly think that no matter what we do or dont do for her, this will never change. She wants the stuff, yet she isnt doing anything to change her behavior. Oh well she will be one hot and sweaty girl this summer. She isnt used to this because I usually give in and get her what she wants, well not this time. I am much stronger now and it actually feels pretty good to say something and stick to it. Go me!!!! Any suggestions....... Get this, last night she asked me to buy her a sidekick cell phone, a $400.00 phone!!! She said she would clean her room for it. I nearly fell over!!! Clean her room for a $400.00 item. Is she nuts? She must have been having one of her delusional moments.