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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 400010" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>HaoZi, I wouldn't be deceptive about it. It only teaches the child that you have to be deceptive to get what you want from other people.</p><p></p><p>NJDad, try the reasoning and logic approach first. Then simply say, "We are doing this. We cannot continue to live with your current behaviour of ..." and spell it out.</p><p></p><p>You need to be very specific and concrete in what you say. We are doing this because..." and give him bullet points. If you can, say to him that this behaviour is unacceptable because (people getting hurt) and you want to understand why, and maybe help him learn better self-control. You also want him to be able to learn more effectively to use that brilliant brain of his.</p><p></p><p>If you work this right, you could have him pulling you through the door determined to keep the appointment!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 400010, member: 1991"] HaoZi, I wouldn't be deceptive about it. It only teaches the child that you have to be deceptive to get what you want from other people. NJDad, try the reasoning and logic approach first. Then simply say, "We are doing this. We cannot continue to live with your current behaviour of ..." and spell it out. You need to be very specific and concrete in what you say. We are doing this because..." and give him bullet points. If you can, say to him that this behaviour is unacceptable because (people getting hurt) and you want to understand why, and maybe help him learn better self-control. You also want him to be able to learn more effectively to use that brilliant brain of his. If you work this right, you could have him pulling you through the door determined to keep the appointment! Marg [/QUOTE]
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