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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 162098" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Serious suggestion, Beth - I keep the fridge loaded with food. I cook in bulk, freeze a lot of it but also keep enough in the fridge so they can microwave something when they are hungry. And because it is good, home-cooked food, I know they're not filling up on junk.</p><p></p><p>For example, when the kids were younger and not really up to re-heating something safely for themselves, I would cook lots of sausages, a dozen or more at a time, and put them on a plate in the fridge. The kids would just go and help themselves. Similarly, a plate (or container) of vegetable chunks, or fruit is always available. I tend to not cook cake or biscuits much; if I do, I don't make its presence as obvious as the healthy food. And if the kids pig out on snacking from the fridge it's still OK because what they ate was as good as a meal anyway. So what if they spoil their appetite for dinner? They spoiled it by eating dinner!</p><p></p><p>The habit you describe drives everyone here mad as well. difficult child 3 is the worst - easy child 2/difficult child 2 will get herself some pasta (the favourite snack of teens/young adults, it seems) and difficult child 3 will see it and suddenly want some. "Please will you make me some too?"</p><p></p><p>easy child 2/difficult child 2 has now insisted on him cooking his own, after she's done, on the grounds that he only wanted it because he saw it. if he REALLY wants some, then he will want it badly enough to get it himself. Why should someone's enjoyment of their meal or snack be disrupted just because someone else is both greedy and lazy? Sometimes we gratify our children too readily and train them to see the world as only existing to instantly meet their needs.</p><p></p><p>That doesn't mean we can't plan ahead and do a kind thing for someone else - I've also trained the kids to ask, "I'm about to make pasta - does anyone else want some?"</p><p></p><p>But failure to speak up at the time, or walking in halfway through and wanting to share - sorry. Get your own. It's the grossest invasion of personal space I can think of, to raid someone else's food without permission (or to even expect that it's OK to do so). husband excepted, of course, when it comes to my plate, because he and I have already established our own ground rules which work - for us.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 162098, member: 1991"] Serious suggestion, Beth - I keep the fridge loaded with food. I cook in bulk, freeze a lot of it but also keep enough in the fridge so they can microwave something when they are hungry. And because it is good, home-cooked food, I know they're not filling up on junk. For example, when the kids were younger and not really up to re-heating something safely for themselves, I would cook lots of sausages, a dozen or more at a time, and put them on a plate in the fridge. The kids would just go and help themselves. Similarly, a plate (or container) of vegetable chunks, or fruit is always available. I tend to not cook cake or biscuits much; if I do, I don't make its presence as obvious as the healthy food. And if the kids pig out on snacking from the fridge it's still OK because what they ate was as good as a meal anyway. So what if they spoil their appetite for dinner? They spoiled it by eating dinner! The habit you describe drives everyone here mad as well. difficult child 3 is the worst - easy child 2/difficult child 2 will get herself some pasta (the favourite snack of teens/young adults, it seems) and difficult child 3 will see it and suddenly want some. "Please will you make me some too?" easy child 2/difficult child 2 has now insisted on him cooking his own, after she's done, on the grounds that he only wanted it because he saw it. if he REALLY wants some, then he will want it badly enough to get it himself. Why should someone's enjoyment of their meal or snack be disrupted just because someone else is both greedy and lazy? Sometimes we gratify our children too readily and train them to see the world as only existing to instantly meet their needs. That doesn't mean we can't plan ahead and do a kind thing for someone else - I've also trained the kids to ask, "I'm about to make pasta - does anyone else want some?" But failure to speak up at the time, or walking in halfway through and wanting to share - sorry. Get your own. It's the grossest invasion of personal space I can think of, to raid someone else's food without permission (or to even expect that it's OK to do so). husband excepted, of course, when it comes to my plate, because he and I have already established our own ground rules which work - for us. Marg [/QUOTE]
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