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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 599047" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>MWM, you are not superhuman. There is no phrase or series of words that will take those thoughts away, for your son. You can comfort him. You can listen, like you did when he was a little boy, and tell him everything is going to be alright. You can tell him that, while you don't know what to do, you DO know how frightened he must be, how scary it must be to have repetitious thoughts about harming himself.</p><p></p><p>You might even suggest that, for just a few minutes, he envision putting those thoughts in a locked box. Whenever the thoughts come back, he can envision putting them in the locked box. After 5 minutes, he can take them out. It sounds so simple? But it may give him some control over the frequency and the intensity of the thoughts.</p><p></p><p>Everything is so much scarier when we feel out of control about when it comes or how long it lasts. </p><p></p><p>*****</p><p></p><p>Here is another thing that might help.</p><p></p><p>DDD just posted about writing responses to our difficult child kids on index cards and placing the cards near the phone. </p><p></p><p>That way, we are not caught unprepared. </p><p></p><p>If we feel prepared, if we understand the parameters of the situations we find ourselves in with our difficult child kids, we will panic less. That whole mess of feelings swirling around and making us dizzy will be less intense.</p><p></p><p>It's like we've given ourselves a place to stand, something to say, some way to respond to a situation where there IS no correct response.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing you, or anyone, could ever say that could take this pain away for your son, MWM. </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry. I wish I could know how to help.</p><p></p><p>What I am going to do is write a few responses I found for you on the internet. Others of us may have responses for you to use, too. I did this (used the cards) with my difficult child son, and it helped me. (Not over the issue of suicide ~ which would be so much worse, because it's scarier.)</p><p></p><p>In fact? It helped so much that my difficult child son came to hate this site! :O) </p><p></p><p>The cards kept ME more focused. No panic. I knew already that whatever I needed to say was right there in front of me.</p><p></p><p>Please try them.</p><p></p><p>**********************************</p><p></p><p>First, a website: <a href="http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/sphone.htm" target="_blank">http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/sphone.htm</a></p><p></p><p>Responses:</p><p></p><p>That you are alive means part of you really, really wants to live.</p><p></p><p>Maybe, honey, what you want is not so much death as that you want the pain to end.</p><p></p><p>Those are the only two I could come up with on short notice. husband is agitating for me to come outside. Others of us may have other phrases for you, MWM. Remember, just listening is such a relief when we are frightened and alone. </p><p></p><p>Holding you and your son too, in my thoughts tonight.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 599047, member: 1721"] MWM, you are not superhuman. There is no phrase or series of words that will take those thoughts away, for your son. You can comfort him. You can listen, like you did when he was a little boy, and tell him everything is going to be alright. You can tell him that, while you don't know what to do, you DO know how frightened he must be, how scary it must be to have repetitious thoughts about harming himself. You might even suggest that, for just a few minutes, he envision putting those thoughts in a locked box. Whenever the thoughts come back, he can envision putting them in the locked box. After 5 minutes, he can take them out. It sounds so simple? But it may give him some control over the frequency and the intensity of the thoughts. Everything is so much scarier when we feel out of control about when it comes or how long it lasts. ***** Here is another thing that might help. DDD just posted about writing responses to our difficult child kids on index cards and placing the cards near the phone. That way, we are not caught unprepared. If we feel prepared, if we understand the parameters of the situations we find ourselves in with our difficult child kids, we will panic less. That whole mess of feelings swirling around and making us dizzy will be less intense. It's like we've given ourselves a place to stand, something to say, some way to respond to a situation where there IS no correct response. There is nothing you, or anyone, could ever say that could take this pain away for your son, MWM. I'm so sorry. I wish I could know how to help. What I am going to do is write a few responses I found for you on the internet. Others of us may have responses for you to use, too. I did this (used the cards) with my difficult child son, and it helped me. (Not over the issue of suicide ~ which would be so much worse, because it's scarier.) In fact? It helped so much that my difficult child son came to hate this site! :O) The cards kept ME more focused. No panic. I knew already that whatever I needed to say was right there in front of me. Please try them. ********************************** First, a website: [url]http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/sphone.htm[/url] Responses: That you are alive means part of you really, really wants to live. Maybe, honey, what you want is not so much death as that you want the pain to end. Those are the only two I could come up with on short notice. husband is agitating for me to come outside. Others of us may have other phrases for you, MWM. Remember, just listening is such a relief when we are frightened and alone. Holding you and your son too, in my thoughts tonight. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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