You know that place you get to where just one more thing will break that overloaded back that carries so much ... think I'm getting there. husband has surgery complications; daughter is moving to Colorado, which is good in a way because she'll get away from an abusive boyfriend, but she'll be two time zones away and I have to somehow make all the practical aspects of the move happen; difficult child 1 has become morbidly obese on medications, to the point where I cry after he leaves each time I see him; and he's decompensating currently and about to melt down with anxiety and paranoia; difficult child 2 is in Brazil for three months and expects a lot of support and everything to be perfect in his townhouse when he gets home; my father is ill and I have to go see him this month (8 hour drive, and he won't move closer). husband had Lasik surgery last week and is having real problems with one eye. He's an anxious guy and now this ... and I'm working 'way too much and in pain with RA and feel like I can't cope with one more thing ... y'know? I know you all know. Sorry. Thanks for letting me vent, and sorry I haven't been around much.