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Can't tell when to help and when to step back!
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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 274406" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Good for you! I am patting you on the back for drawing a boundary and letting them know the consequences. Bravo! </p><p> </p><p>I'm right there with ya. The first time they have to walk or take the bus to school they will know you mean business.</p><p> </p><p>My 16 yr old difficult child has been able to manipulate me by making me feel sorry for him and giving him more second chances. However, now that he has a P.O., he can't do that anymore. If he fails one more drug test he has to go inpatient and he does not want to go away from home again. He actually had the nerve to beg me to buy him a "flush" (some kind of herbal remedy that is supposed to mask marijuana use, I think drinking copious amounts of water also does pretty much the same thing but experiences SA counselors can tell by the creatinine levels in the urine if someone is messing around), tried to make me feel guilty for sending him away again if he fails. I stayed firm and told him that his dad and I do not want him using illegal drugs at all. When he turns 18 and wants to smoke a joint he can move out and do it in his own apartment, but not under my roof. </p><p> </p><p>It's exhausting to try to stay on top of sneaky teens, and you've got it times two, but you will feel so much better knowing that you are doing the right thing by your kids and by yourself. Hopefully, that knowledge will keep us strong.</p><p> </p><p>Good for you! Stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 274406, member: 5941"] Good for you! I am patting you on the back for drawing a boundary and letting them know the consequences. Bravo! I'm right there with ya. The first time they have to walk or take the bus to school they will know you mean business. My 16 yr old difficult child has been able to manipulate me by making me feel sorry for him and giving him more second chances. However, now that he has a P.O., he can't do that anymore. If he fails one more drug test he has to go inpatient and he does not want to go away from home again. He actually had the nerve to beg me to buy him a "flush" (some kind of herbal remedy that is supposed to mask marijuana use, I think drinking copious amounts of water also does pretty much the same thing but experiences SA counselors can tell by the creatinine levels in the urine if someone is messing around), tried to make me feel guilty for sending him away again if he fails. I stayed firm and told him that his dad and I do not want him using illegal drugs at all. When he turns 18 and wants to smoke a joint he can move out and do it in his own apartment, but not under my roof. It's exhausting to try to stay on top of sneaky teens, and you've got it times two, but you will feel so much better knowing that you are doing the right thing by your kids and by yourself. Hopefully, that knowledge will keep us strong. Good for you! Stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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