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<blockquote data-quote="house of cards" data-source="post: 198377" data-attributes="member: 2005"><p>Yes, no rules seem to apply to him right now, It is not his normal behavior. He is taking candy/gum without permission, sneaking out of his room to watch T.V, he was just down stairs when I came home, he told me my husband said he could come out of his room to have tea, I checked with husband...no, Major told him I said he could come down. Bold lie.</p><p></p><p>I understand he wanted to be with the big guys, but he is over an edge with feeling entitled to do whatever he wants. I guess you could say it is impulse control... but it really feels like it is just a stubborn feeling of entitlement he gets sometimes. He was obsessed with needing to be with them... at any cost.</p><p></p><p>I also understand that he hates and can't handle being alone with nothing to do(he has 2new books and legos to play with, and that is why I didn't make it that long of a time initially, it was his bedtime and he only had til noon the next day.) but he isn't respecting any rules right now including staying in his room. He will say all the right things and then go do whatever he wants even in direct conflict with what I tell him.</p><p></p><p>I do understand what he did, I don't understand why he didn't accept the punishment and felt entitled to destroy his room, I have gotten caught up in the improvements we have had over the summer where I actually can reason with him and punish normal childhood bad behavior. I don't get how he can understand that it would be over a line to hit any of us but to write on his walls, scratch them with a pushpin which I don't even know why/how it was in his room, dig into the wallboard with his fingers is alright in his mind...and it IS alright in his mind. I am unloving in his mind because I have punished him for doing it.</p><p></p><p>What is the alternative, do I just give in to the destruction and figure I will rewallboard when he is grown? He directly went against me when I brought him upstairs and went down again, Would you have really let that go and just tried to keep him busy? All of this is tied into school. He has "forgot" to bring home homework, told me he got an 100 on a spelling test he did very low on, scored a 37 on a test that his teacher sent home to do over because she knows he knows the answers because of his participation during class. It is a small self contained class so she really knows him. Everything is starting to fall apart. Oh, I forgot he also was grounded from recess for three days for pushing a child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="house of cards, post: 198377, member: 2005"] Yes, no rules seem to apply to him right now, It is not his normal behavior. He is taking candy/gum without permission, sneaking out of his room to watch T.V, he was just down stairs when I came home, he told me my husband said he could come out of his room to have tea, I checked with husband...no, Major told him I said he could come down. Bold lie. I understand he wanted to be with the big guys, but he is over an edge with feeling entitled to do whatever he wants. I guess you could say it is impulse control... but it really feels like it is just a stubborn feeling of entitlement he gets sometimes. He was obsessed with needing to be with them... at any cost. I also understand that he hates and can't handle being alone with nothing to do(he has 2new books and legos to play with, and that is why I didn't make it that long of a time initially, it was his bedtime and he only had til noon the next day.) but he isn't respecting any rules right now including staying in his room. He will say all the right things and then go do whatever he wants even in direct conflict with what I tell him. I do understand what he did, I don't understand why he didn't accept the punishment and felt entitled to destroy his room, I have gotten caught up in the improvements we have had over the summer where I actually can reason with him and punish normal childhood bad behavior. I don't get how he can understand that it would be over a line to hit any of us but to write on his walls, scratch them with a pushpin which I don't even know why/how it was in his room, dig into the wallboard with his fingers is alright in his mind...and it IS alright in his mind. I am unloving in his mind because I have punished him for doing it. What is the alternative, do I just give in to the destruction and figure I will rewallboard when he is grown? He directly went against me when I brought him upstairs and went down again, Would you have really let that go and just tried to keep him busy? All of this is tied into school. He has "forgot" to bring home homework, told me he got an 100 on a spelling test he did very low on, scored a 37 on a test that his teacher sent home to do over because she knows he knows the answers because of his participation during class. It is a small self contained class so she really knows him. Everything is starting to fall apart. Oh, I forgot he also was grounded from recess for three days for pushing a child. [/QUOTE]
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