Car Accident

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Bean, Nov 16, 2011.

  1. Bean

    Bean Member

    My daughter had made up her mind to "stay away from bad friends." I have continued to tell her to seek whole health (counseling, AA/NA, doctor, etc.) because her making it on her own isn't working. Hence, her decision to hang out with her on again, off again buddy (who is a prostitute, user and everything else). Great decision.

    Day 1 - she was nasty
    Day 2 - she was reallyreally nasty and had wounds from "falling out of a car" - sounded like she was using
    Day 3 (today) we got a call at 4am from her, hysterical

    Apparently her good buddy and her had gone to a suburb, drank (and did who knows what else), and got into an OWI-induced accident on the highway on the way home. She wasn't wearing a seatbelt, the front window was bashed, the officer said she was lucky to be alive.

    The friend got an OWI, my daughter got an underage drinking ticket; they both were released and went home.

    My daughter is still drunk/high/Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) so I don't know how she really feels about all of this. She said she's shaken up. She says she's sorry. She said it scared her and she thought she was going to die.

    I'm numb but feeling extremely anxious and sad, underneath the crust of numbness. I mean, how many of us go to bed hoping not to get the call? It's in the back of my mind for her all the time. She drives with people who are using all the time. She's been prostituting herself. I don't know how much more "numb" I can get to all of this while continuing to be capable of having other normal emotions.

    I feel like a stone. I don't know how to feel. I don't know what to tell our other children. It feels like we were starting to heal, and the wound gets ripped apart, the defense mechanisms have been thrown back up.
  2. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Just sending supportive thoughts and hugs your way. So many of us understand the rollercoaster and often it just makes us sick because we have difficulty staying prepared for the next unexpected dive. Wish I had an answer for you, or for any of us for that matter. Exhale. Fall back and regroup. Know you are not alone. DDD
  3. buddy

    buddy New Member

    I am sad for your having to go through such fear and worry. Thinking of you... Buddy
  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    Hopefully this close brush with death will be her eye opener she can't do it alone.

    Prayers for you both.
  5. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry, and I completely empathize with that feeling of numbness.
  6. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    I'm sorry. Hang in there, maybe this will be the wake up call she needs.
  7. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    I am so so sorry. I hope this is the wake up call she needed.

    And I hate the numb feeling...I know what you mean
  8. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    I don't know what to say. This has to be so very difficult for you. It's a constant roller coaster, isn't it? Just know we're listening...
  9. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry...many hugs.
  10. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Many hugs. Hope this wakes her up.
  11. Star*

    Star* call 911


    Words should fail her when she looks at you for what she's putting you through, but moreso words should fail herself when she looks in a mirror.
  12. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    I certainly hope she uses her new lease on life to make it better.
  13. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Praying this was a wake up call for her!!
  14. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Sending hugs your way. Hope this will help keep her on the right track.