Wow i cant beleive the 2 hour meeting we just had with the group home and our mental health team. Well the meeting was about basically what the group home is going to do with difficult child, which was fine. But they will start intergrating him back into the home after 45 days. First it will be with day visits and than overnight visits and see how they are going.
2nd thing is that we went over was difficult child's behavior and what was acceptable at home after the group home. Well we will not tolerate disrespect, breaking things, or physcial aggression towards anyone in the home or outside the home. Well they didnt feel that this was realistic goals. So lets say difficult child is out of control 7 days a week and after the group home its down to 1-2 days that is improvement.
So after husband and I got the impression that they are pointing the finger at us I stopped everyone and said you all have to remember that we just got custody of difficult child 5 months ago, due to his behaviors with his bio-mom and brother. Than I stated that when I met with the psychiatric dr yesterday he gave me a diagnosis that in all reality scares me to death, and if anyone here has any knowledge of what this diagnosis is they should be able to see difficult child and what he has and is doing to his family or anyone he comes in contact with. The psychiatric dr also stated that there is nothing psychiatric dr's can to with antisocial personality disorder other than get the law involved.
So I said to everyone if the dr says this than how can anyone here expect us to be able to deal with difficult child if they cant do anything for him??????
I was than informed that if this diagnosis stays at childhood onset antisocial personality disorder than there is no other treatment options left for difficult child. So there will be no Residential Treatment Center (RTC). So where do I go from here, I don't know but I can say that the mental health people of this great country have no answers but expect the parents to know what to do.. This really is a stinky system.
So now we are in a situation where they want us to go for intensive family therapy and all other kinds of things which to be honest is not how I want my life to be. I refuse to allow myself to miss out on easy child's life because I am exhausted from taking care of difficult child.
I guess I will know more when husband comes home and we talk about what the game plan will be, because at this point I don't see a solution in the near future.
Everyone at the meeting said what a good wife I am for having all the paperwork with me and being so organized and sticking by husband through all of this when most woman today wouldnt. I really just feel like I'm failing my husband and easy child, but realize I have the choice to stay and deal with it or make the decision to leave.
Thanks for listening to me rant 1 more time. I will contiue to pray for all of us and hope there is a silver lining.-
2nd thing is that we went over was difficult child's behavior and what was acceptable at home after the group home. Well we will not tolerate disrespect, breaking things, or physcial aggression towards anyone in the home or outside the home. Well they didnt feel that this was realistic goals. So lets say difficult child is out of control 7 days a week and after the group home its down to 1-2 days that is improvement.
So after husband and I got the impression that they are pointing the finger at us I stopped everyone and said you all have to remember that we just got custody of difficult child 5 months ago, due to his behaviors with his bio-mom and brother. Than I stated that when I met with the psychiatric dr yesterday he gave me a diagnosis that in all reality scares me to death, and if anyone here has any knowledge of what this diagnosis is they should be able to see difficult child and what he has and is doing to his family or anyone he comes in contact with. The psychiatric dr also stated that there is nothing psychiatric dr's can to with antisocial personality disorder other than get the law involved.
So I said to everyone if the dr says this than how can anyone here expect us to be able to deal with difficult child if they cant do anything for him??????
I was than informed that if this diagnosis stays at childhood onset antisocial personality disorder than there is no other treatment options left for difficult child. So there will be no Residential Treatment Center (RTC). So where do I go from here, I don't know but I can say that the mental health people of this great country have no answers but expect the parents to know what to do.. This really is a stinky system.
So now we are in a situation where they want us to go for intensive family therapy and all other kinds of things which to be honest is not how I want my life to be. I refuse to allow myself to miss out on easy child's life because I am exhausted from taking care of difficult child.
I guess I will know more when husband comes home and we talk about what the game plan will be, because at this point I don't see a solution in the near future.
Everyone at the meeting said what a good wife I am for having all the paperwork with me and being so organized and sticking by husband through all of this when most woman today wouldnt. I really just feel like I'm failing my husband and easy child, but realize I have the choice to stay and deal with it or make the decision to leave.
Thanks for listening to me rant 1 more time. I will contiue to pray for all of us and hope there is a silver lining.-