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<blockquote data-quote="Loving Abbey 2" data-source="post: 143921" data-attributes="member: 4845"><p>As a previous cutter myself, I can tell you that until difficult child has some more effective coping skills he will find a way to self-injure (burning, eating d/o, hitting walls/self, etc). It is entirely about coping--it makes you feel real, makes the pain and anger you feel real, and it releases it. That has to be replaced for the cutting to stop. It's also about having some control so taking the door off may make him feel even more out of control. DBT skills training helped me quite a bit. At least for me, it was a cry for help when I thought I didn't want help. And the only times I did it in a visible place and didn't cover it, was when I was really hoping someone would notice and help me. But most of the time when someone saw the cuts and had that horrified, disappointed look on thier face it made me hate myself more and more inclined to cut again. Someone understanding how much pain and anger I was in, was everything.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe more than you needed to know, but I hope it helps somehow. I am so sorry you and your family are going through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Loving Abbey 2, post: 143921, member: 4845"] As a previous cutter myself, I can tell you that until difficult child has some more effective coping skills he will find a way to self-injure (burning, eating d/o, hitting walls/self, etc). It is entirely about coping--it makes you feel real, makes the pain and anger you feel real, and it releases it. That has to be replaced for the cutting to stop. It's also about having some control so taking the door off may make him feel even more out of control. DBT skills training helped me quite a bit. At least for me, it was a cry for help when I thought I didn't want help. And the only times I did it in a visible place and didn't cover it, was when I was really hoping someone would notice and help me. But most of the time when someone saw the cuts and had that horrified, disappointed look on thier face it made me hate myself more and more inclined to cut again. Someone understanding how much pain and anger I was in, was everything. Maybe more than you needed to know, but I hope it helps somehow. I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. [/QUOTE]
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