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toughlovin
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Hi Everyone,
Well i just caught up on what is going on on the board, what an amazing group of warrior parents you all are! I am thinking of each of you and especially those of you whose difficult children who are struggling...and i am so impressed with the stands and steps you all have taken.
I am still overseas...did not have very reasonable wifi for the last month which is why i have been out of touch...seem to have it for the next three days though.
I am having a wonderful wonderful trip. Had problems getting my phone to work and very limited internet access which has been really good for me...helped me let go a lot.
My difficult child is making progress but is having his slip ups or rather screw ups. I have not talked to him whille i hqve been gone, qlthough if he really wanted to we could set it up. We have talked to his therapist at the program he is at weekly. She is great, he has opened up to her and i think they are really getting to some issues. He called my husband last week and said he is feeling better than he has in a long time. He has signed up for a class in Sept ( out there) , they are pushing him to get his commuity serevice hours done for probation. There have been some pretty bad times with the girl back home, and he hqs gone to the therapist for help in dealing with it. A lot of good stuff...i think this progrqm has rerally been the right olace for him, the dbt is good for him i think and they do not just kick him out when he behaves inappropriately.
As came up in another thread i think he was an addict before he ever usee substances....and he hqs used them to avoid dealing with his feelings and issues. All that is hopeful.
However there is still worrisome stuff. 10 days ago the therapist told us they were drug testing him because another resident had gotten a hold of some spice. difficult children response was fine i have nothing to hide. The therapist felt like he was clean and we hoped she was right. Well this week we found out she wasnt, he did use and lied to her. I think she was disappointed about him as was i. However he epdid eventually own up( kind of had to given the evidence) and i think it provided some more opportunity for learning both on his part and on the part of the therapist. However him continuing to relapse worries me...but hey right now i am on vacation so i wont worry much because at least know he is safe.
TL
Well i just caught up on what is going on on the board, what an amazing group of warrior parents you all are! I am thinking of each of you and especially those of you whose difficult children who are struggling...and i am so impressed with the stands and steps you all have taken.
I am still overseas...did not have very reasonable wifi for the last month which is why i have been out of touch...seem to have it for the next three days though.
I am having a wonderful wonderful trip. Had problems getting my phone to work and very limited internet access which has been really good for me...helped me let go a lot.
My difficult child is making progress but is having his slip ups or rather screw ups. I have not talked to him whille i hqve been gone, qlthough if he really wanted to we could set it up. We have talked to his therapist at the program he is at weekly. She is great, he has opened up to her and i think they are really getting to some issues. He called my husband last week and said he is feeling better than he has in a long time. He has signed up for a class in Sept ( out there) , they are pushing him to get his commuity serevice hours done for probation. There have been some pretty bad times with the girl back home, and he hqs gone to the therapist for help in dealing with it. A lot of good stuff...i think this progrqm has rerally been the right olace for him, the dbt is good for him i think and they do not just kick him out when he behaves inappropriately.
As came up in another thread i think he was an addict before he ever usee substances....and he hqs used them to avoid dealing with his feelings and issues. All that is hopeful.
However there is still worrisome stuff. 10 days ago the therapist told us they were drug testing him because another resident had gotten a hold of some spice. difficult children response was fine i have nothing to hide. The therapist felt like he was clean and we hoped she was right. Well this week we found out she wasnt, he did use and lied to her. I think she was disappointed about him as was i. However he epdid eventually own up( kind of had to given the evidence) and i think it provided some more opportunity for learning both on his part and on the part of the therapist. However him continuing to relapse worries me...but hey right now i am on vacation so i wont worry much because at least know he is safe.
TL