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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 455668" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>I haven't read all the responses, but bottom line, no matter what age you are, you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. They will beg, borrow, steal, lose jobs...anything to keep their addiction because they simply do not want to get better. I don't know an addict around me that doesn't know they're an addict. They are well aware. Don't give me the bull about the physical part of addiction. I KNOW that it exists, but THAT you can cure. You have to want to go down that road of recovery. They just choose not to change and drag everyone else who is out to 'save' them down with them. Unless they are truly committed to change, they will milk you for everything emotionally and financially. Addicts are pros at getting what they want. That being said, if they truly want change...it needs to happen by them self and not by others.</p><p></p><p><strong>YOU</strong> might lose your partner and your daughter just because you're devoting all your time to save your grown son.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to walk away and distance yourself. been there done that, but if you want some sanity and peace in life, it may need to happen. He's not a kid anymore. He's a grown man.</p><p></p><p>Sorry to be so blunt but been in this ugly business of rescuing for far too many years.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 455668, member: 179"] I haven't read all the responses, but bottom line, no matter what age you are, you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. They will beg, borrow, steal, lose jobs...anything to keep their addiction because they simply do not want to get better. I don't know an addict around me that doesn't know they're an addict. They are well aware. Don't give me the bull about the physical part of addiction. I KNOW that it exists, but THAT you can cure. You have to want to go down that road of recovery. They just choose not to change and drag everyone else who is out to 'save' them down with them. Unless they are truly committed to change, they will milk you for everything emotionally and financially. Addicts are pros at getting what they want. That being said, if they truly want change...it needs to happen by them self and not by others. [B]YOU[/B] might lose your partner and your daughter just because you're devoting all your time to save your grown son. It's hard to walk away and distance yourself. been there done that, but if you want some sanity and peace in life, it may need to happen. He's not a kid anymore. He's a grown man. Sorry to be so blunt but been in this ugly business of rescuing for far too many years. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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