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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 609047" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>That sounds like a pretty judgmental therapist to me, Witz. That can happen. I saw a therapist once who did some damage that I later learned (once I finally got over believing that what happened, happened because of some terminal flaw in me, that is) is often due to something called "reverse transference." Or at least that is what the therapist I began to see later called it. If your issues key something in the therapist's past, he or she may lose objectivity during your sessions. Therapists are supposed to be trained to help us see what WE'RE thinking, not tell us what THEY think, or what we should, or should not, feel. </p><p></p><p>If you find yourself dealing with a therapist who makes you feel worse than you already do about what is happening (or about what has happened), then you are right to leave therapy with that person full speed ahead.</p><p></p><p>No one likes to talk about it much, but a bad therapist, or a therapist in over his or her head, can do some pretty long-term damage. When we are paying someone to help us, it seldom occurs to us that THEY are the ones who are wrong. Unless we are therapists ourselves, we have probably never heard of reverse transference, and don't know to watch for it.</p><p></p><p>Really bad situation, Witz. You were very courageous to give this a shot. I'm sorry, Witz. That never should have happened to you.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 609047, member: 1721"] That sounds like a pretty judgmental therapist to me, Witz. That can happen. I saw a therapist once who did some damage that I later learned (once I finally got over believing that what happened, happened because of some terminal flaw in me, that is) is often due to something called "reverse transference." Or at least that is what the therapist I began to see later called it. If your issues key something in the therapist's past, he or she may lose objectivity during your sessions. Therapists are supposed to be trained to help us see what WE'RE thinking, not tell us what THEY think, or what we should, or should not, feel. If you find yourself dealing with a therapist who makes you feel worse than you already do about what is happening (or about what has happened), then you are right to leave therapy with that person full speed ahead. No one likes to talk about it much, but a bad therapist, or a therapist in over his or her head, can do some pretty long-term damage. When we are paying someone to help us, it seldom occurs to us that THEY are the ones who are wrong. Unless we are therapists ourselves, we have probably never heard of reverse transference, and don't know to watch for it. Really bad situation, Witz. You were very courageous to give this a shot. I'm sorry, Witz. That never should have happened to you. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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