Cgfg just text me

[Shari]

and said her mom is now saying, in addition to money, she can't go on this school trip because she doesn't do anything besides come to our house. She doesn't do any work at her mom's and she doesn't do any activities at her mom's - all she does is come here - and her mom now wants her to spend less time here.

She is here 4 nights (2 full days) out of every 14. That leaves her 10 at her mom's. I think that's PLENTY of time for mom to have her doing something...

I hope to God cgfg is making this koi up...

 

[InsaneCdn]

I hope to God cgfg is making this koi up...

I doubt it.

These need to be things that cgfg brings up to the atty, though - not you.
They need to hear it from the horse's mouth.

 

[Shari]

When I replied to cgfg that her mom is the one that signed her up for shooting and this school group, we had no part of it, cgfg said "yeah, but she didn't know it would cost money".

That's why they have meetings and emails and websites with info...that her mom doesn't go to or read. GRRR.

She's in high school. Cgfg played softball last year and mom whined about the $50 fee for that. Then mom went to a whopping sum of 2 of cgfg's games. She didn't even go to ANY of her home games. Even chess club probably costs money. She could have taken her shopping for a different dress. Or shoes. Or jewelry. Cgfg is fine with thrift stores (tho mama is not). She could have stayed home and watched her older daughter do up cgfg's hair and makeup and take her to the dance instead of me. She could have driven her to the activities last week, but she didn't want to or was too busy at her flea market. I have no sympathy. But if she can't get what she wants out of 10 days, I'm pretty sure having all 14 isn't going to help.

 

[Shari]

Apparently mom still isn't aware of the grades problem...and i'm not bringing it up to anyone but the lawyer. (and husband. he knows)

 

[mstang67chic]

Wow.....what a winner.

Or whiner.

Whichever.

Definately (as if you're not) document....save texts...emails...whatever. Will Cgfg tell the attorney what she tells you? Or at least put it in writing (or some form or another?

Better yet....email Mom and get it in writing from HER!

 

[Liahona]

Its the attitude my two year old has. No, I don't want the toy, but I'll scream 'till I'm blue if someone else picks it up.

Sick and maddening when applied to a living breathing person.

 

[Shari]

Exactly.
During the year she kept cgfg from husband (way back when), she also pulled cgfg out of the activities she was in. Cgfg had played little soccer and was in her 2nd or 3rd year, and mama yanked it away (presumably because husband went to watch her play). She has adamantly not allowed any further activities except for softball last year, which she also didn't attend.
When she had cgfg evaled for ADHD, she had the gonads to tell the doctor cgfg was involved in a camping club and a saddle club (yet cgfg was only allowed to participate if she happened to be with husband on the weekends those clubs had activities).
She's had 10 years to get the child involved in something. Its clear she's not interested.
Her older daughter? She didn't even get pics of her going to prom. Nor did she even bother to go out and look at her all made up in her dress. Apparently 2 miles was just too far to travel...

 

[DammitJanet]

Some people shouldnt be allowed to deliver kids. I am so unhappy with some mothers right now.

 

[Shari]

amen, Janet.

 

[AnnieO]

Shari... Save texts. Save emails from bio. Talk to cgfg... If she wants to live with you, she'll probably talk to the lawyer. BUT - if she is at all afraid of bio... Maybe not.

Bio wants her home more? So she can WHAT? That's a red flag to me... because... What you tell us... You are telling my kids' story. And you know how that one ends.

 

[Shari]

We asked cgfg if she wanted to talk to the lawyer - she said yes. That was last week, and its gotten worse since. We had hoped to meet the lawyer last week, and she had told a close friend, who's mom called later to ask how it went. So I think she'll talk to the guy. Bio is nasty, but we've been talking to cgfg about what she did with her older sister, and if bio ever does the "get out and never come back" routine again, A) don't believe that she'll never see mom again, and B) take her up on it - call and we'll get her. With either a police escort or a videotape running...

And exactly...WHAT does she want cgfg to do at home more. They do NOTHING as it is. Even on the rare times cgfg DID do something (softball, tutoring, her homecoming activities last week, etc), bio CHOSE to have nothing to do with them.

And I do have a text from bio that says that I f-ed up the whole summer schedule with MY shoots. I think that's a pretty telling one. Among others...

 

[AnnieO]

Jeez. I remember praying that either bio would change or the situation would change. Cgfg sounds miserable... for her AND for you guys.

 

[DammitJanet]

Lindsay just called me to tell me that Keyana "lost" the phone I gave her. Hmmm. Didnt sound to happy when I said I would be sending her another one. It was only a ten dollar go phone. I expected Keyana to go through a few.

 

[Shari]

I'm going to get one of those, too, Janet, to have on hand for when bio takes cgfg's phone. Which I imagine she'll do shortly after the papers get served.

 

[Liahona]

I am technology impaired. Do you get those at any store? How good is the coverage?

 

[DammitJanet]

The one I got her is the 2 buck a day one. And it works in MO...lol.

 

[Star*]

How can you live IN a house and UNDER a bridge at the same time........ponders Star?????????

 

[Shari]

Good question, Star. Cgfg confirmed tonight that mom has no clue about academics.

And she did talk to the lawyer. We have a plan. Its not gonna be pretty.

I wouldn't normally do this, but, I predict her mother will take the phone to inhibit communication with her once this starts, and if she does, I will have a go-phone on hand to give to cgfg. It will be for emergency use only. It won't be for friends to text, etc. I don't like to be deceitful like that and undermine her mom as a parent, but I also don't want her to not have a means to contact someone when the fit hits the shan. Janet, is yours just one that you pick up at a dollar store or whatever?

 

[InsaneCdn]

Truth is stranger than fiction... some of our stories would make very interesting movies!

This one, in particular, has a bit too much suspense for MY liking... maybe yours too?

 

[Shari]

Yes. I just want this part over with.