Hi all, Just wanted to give an update. I have no excuse for not posting other than I have been working long hours and every other area of my life is suffering I have checked in frequently, read posts and offered prayers. Well, here goes. difficult child has continued with his job, 5 months now and it is going well. He has had 3 traffic violations... the last one was for speeding which cost $378 and really got his attention. No drugs or alcohol and he turned 20 in March. He is presently putting money away so that he can get his own place and has a strong desire to return to the military but that won't happen until/unless he gets his discharge changed. He has 2 psycho females in his life but that is his problem and it won't become ours unless they start invading our space. We all learned when he was in Arizona apparently as husband and I have NO tolerance for any of his BS. It is still somewhat hard to watch him face the consequences for his choices... but not hard enough to intervene which is a humongous step for me.. for those of you who remember. husband started a new job and things are going well and I still love my job. I have posted on my refrigerator the detaching steps and the letting go steps and I read them everyday. I use what I learned from all my friends here all the time with difficult child. Nothing works until you put into practice what you know in your head. I miss you all but I can't promise that I will be on the board a lot. My schedule is so outrageous but never does a day go by that I don't think, and remember, the love and help I received here... and the lasting friendships I made. You are all in my prayers. Love and hugs from the Coookie House.