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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 425415" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p><p> </p><p>OK honestly? This hit me one day when my mother complained yet again about how filthy my house was. It's not. It needs a good sweep, mop and vacuum - but it's not. filthy. And I told her - when I was a child - up to age 14 - Dad was out of town a LOT, so it was HER and ME. And while I probably made more mess than she did, I remember helping clean, do dishes, laundry, etc. When my room was a mess - it was nothing like my kids' rooms now. TWO PEOPLE.</p><p> </p><p>And I am dealing with 3 people, who had baggage long before I met them. husband's mother has a cleaning lady, and always has. Her apartment still stinks - I don't like ferrets, and hers poop ALL OVER. Onyxx does not keep things clean out of rebellion, and being brought up with a Japanese grandma who, when they lived with her, did EVERYTHING for them. EVERYTHING. Jett is not made to clean at BM's - as a very small child he was told he was stupid and he couldn't a LOT, so he still tries that. Add in the fact that he just wants to get back to his TV or video games, and... Half-done job. "Maybe if I do it badly I won't have to do it" - doesn't work for me.</p><p> </p><p>husband <em>does</em> clean - but not when it needs it - when he feels like it. Which isn't often.</p><p> </p><p>I got fed up and depressed and frustrated. And Mom hit me with that. And you know what? I am jealous of HER - because I was such an easy kid compared to my three - yes, THREE.</p><p> </p><p>I see my friends and their relationships with mentally stable people (kids, husbands, etc.) and just want to cry. (Yeah, I also see unstable people. They make me want to cry, too.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 425415, member: 6705"] :hugs: OK honestly? This hit me one day when my mother complained yet again about how filthy my house was. It's not. It needs a good sweep, mop and vacuum - but it's not. filthy. And I told her - when I was a child - up to age 14 - Dad was out of town a LOT, so it was HER and ME. And while I probably made more mess than she did, I remember helping clean, do dishes, laundry, etc. When my room was a mess - it was nothing like my kids' rooms now. TWO PEOPLE. And I am dealing with 3 people, who had baggage long before I met them. husband's mother has a cleaning lady, and always has. Her apartment still stinks - I don't like ferrets, and hers poop ALL OVER. Onyxx does not keep things clean out of rebellion, and being brought up with a Japanese grandma who, when they lived with her, did EVERYTHING for them. EVERYTHING. Jett is not made to clean at BM's - as a very small child he was told he was stupid and he couldn't a LOT, so he still tries that. Add in the fact that he just wants to get back to his TV or video games, and... Half-done job. "Maybe if I do it badly I won't have to do it" - doesn't work for me. husband [I]does[/I] clean - but not when it needs it - when he feels like it. Which isn't often. I got fed up and depressed and frustrated. And Mom hit me with that. And you know what? I am jealous of HER - because I was such an easy kid compared to my three - yes, THREE. I see my friends and their relationships with mentally stable people (kids, husbands, etc.) and just want to cry. (Yeah, I also see unstable people. They make me want to cry, too.) [/QUOTE]
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