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<blockquote data-quote="Californiablonde" data-source="post: 527529" data-attributes="member: 2196"><p>Okay so a little backround (and I'll try not to make this too long.) My ex and I ended our relationship six years ago. I opened a child support case against him and they started automatically taking the money out of his paycheck. Last year difficult child 2 temporarily lived with him for six months due to some mental health issues I was dealing with. difficult child 1 continued to stay with me so she could still attend her SDC classes at the same school. As soon as my son moved in with his dad, I dropped the child support case since we each had a kid. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 2 moved back in with me six months later. I wanted to re-open the case so of course I could start getting my support again. Ex did not want me to open the case. He was adamant about it. He told me he would pay me on his own so we wouldn't have to go through the "hassle" of going through the courts. I had no idea what his motive was for me dropping the case. I found out later what it was. He still owed me $1200 back child support from when I was pregnant with difficult child 2 and we were briefly seperated. </p><p></p><p>When the case closed child support said he no longer owed me the $1200 since I closed the case six months earlier. He also owed the state a few thousand dollars worth of back support, plus interest. If I were to re-open the case, he would still owe the state that money, but I would not be receiving any more money from him. I agreed to drop the case and accept him paying me on his own. He was to pay the same amount as he was before when the case was open. </p><p></p><p>On one occasion he shorted me $50 because he said he was behind on bills. I was seriously hurting for that money, and I had to go to the church to get a food box because we were short on food $. I went ahead and re-opened the case so he would no longer pull the same kinda **** again. As soon as the case re-opened, they nailed him for the back support he owed the state. They intercepted his tax refund. He was so upset at me that he called and cussed me out. Then he pulled a no show one weekend out of spite for what I had done.</p><p></p><p>As soon as the case re-opened, the child support agency called me for a phone interview. I gave them my income info and they also asked if my kids were healthy and if they had any ongoing medical problems. I told them about the kids' disabilities and what I had to pay in medical costs each month. This year my health insurance at my job went up $200. My co-pay for doctor's visits was also raised. </p><p></p><p>Child support told me that I was due for an increase in support since my expenses went up quite a bit this year. When child support called him to inform him of this, he freaked. He decided to take me to court to fight it. He is claiming financial hardship since his lazy wife hasn't had a job for three years. The court date is set for May 17th. </p><p></p><p>We both have to bring proof of income and a list of all our expenses. Depending on his expenses and his total income (his wife not working DOES count, I found out) the court will determine how much he has to pay. Worst case scenario I would be getting the same amount I'm getting now. Best case scenario I could be getting several hundred dollars more a month. </p><p></p><p>Just recently ex texted me and offered to pay $232 more a month that I'm getting now, but the catch is I will once again have to drop the case. I seriously don't know what to do. I don't know if I can trust him to pay me on time or pay me the full amount I'm due. If we go to court and I lose, I get nothing. If I take him for his word, I get more. Should I trust him or no? He keeps texting me to give him an answer and I keep putting it off because honestly I don't know what's in our best interest right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Californiablonde, post: 527529, member: 2196"] Okay so a little backround (and I'll try not to make this too long.) My ex and I ended our relationship six years ago. I opened a child support case against him and they started automatically taking the money out of his paycheck. Last year difficult child 2 temporarily lived with him for six months due to some mental health issues I was dealing with. difficult child 1 continued to stay with me so she could still attend her SDC classes at the same school. As soon as my son moved in with his dad, I dropped the child support case since we each had a kid. difficult child 2 moved back in with me six months later. I wanted to re-open the case so of course I could start getting my support again. Ex did not want me to open the case. He was adamant about it. He told me he would pay me on his own so we wouldn't have to go through the "hassle" of going through the courts. I had no idea what his motive was for me dropping the case. I found out later what it was. He still owed me $1200 back child support from when I was pregnant with difficult child 2 and we were briefly seperated. When the case closed child support said he no longer owed me the $1200 since I closed the case six months earlier. He also owed the state a few thousand dollars worth of back support, plus interest. If I were to re-open the case, he would still owe the state that money, but I would not be receiving any more money from him. I agreed to drop the case and accept him paying me on his own. He was to pay the same amount as he was before when the case was open. On one occasion he shorted me $50 because he said he was behind on bills. I was seriously hurting for that money, and I had to go to the church to get a food box because we were short on food $. I went ahead and re-opened the case so he would no longer pull the same kinda **** again. As soon as the case re-opened, they nailed him for the back support he owed the state. They intercepted his tax refund. He was so upset at me that he called and cussed me out. Then he pulled a no show one weekend out of spite for what I had done. As soon as the case re-opened, the child support agency called me for a phone interview. I gave them my income info and they also asked if my kids were healthy and if they had any ongoing medical problems. I told them about the kids' disabilities and what I had to pay in medical costs each month. This year my health insurance at my job went up $200. My co-pay for doctor's visits was also raised. Child support told me that I was due for an increase in support since my expenses went up quite a bit this year. When child support called him to inform him of this, he freaked. He decided to take me to court to fight it. He is claiming financial hardship since his lazy wife hasn't had a job for three years. The court date is set for May 17th. We both have to bring proof of income and a list of all our expenses. Depending on his expenses and his total income (his wife not working DOES count, I found out) the court will determine how much he has to pay. Worst case scenario I would be getting the same amount I'm getting now. Best case scenario I could be getting several hundred dollars more a month. Just recently ex texted me and offered to pay $232 more a month that I'm getting now, but the catch is I will once again have to drop the case. I seriously don't know what to do. I don't know if I can trust him to pay me on time or pay me the full amount I'm due. If we go to court and I lose, I get nothing. If I take him for his word, I get more. Should I trust him or no? He keeps texting me to give him an answer and I keep putting it off because honestly I don't know what's in our best interest right now. [/QUOTE]
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