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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 161712" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I tied difficult child's chores to his allowance because otherwise it seemed like he would get the allowance whether he did the chores or not, and I didn't think he should get "paid" the same amount if he hadn't done his part for the week. However, since I am paying his restitution for his illegal activities last year and since I do think that part of what is expected of him should be done because he lives here (I still want him to learn that he has to pitch in and help- no one pays ME for it), he only gets 1/3 of what I deem the job to be worth. The thinking is that 1/3 goes to pay me back for restitution, 1/3 is because you live here, and 1/3 he pockets.</p><p></p><p>His chores include taking garbage out, helping cook dinner some nights, sometimes there are handy-man chores he can do, yardwork, washing car, unloading dishwasher, sweeping porch/deck, carrying groceries in from the car, helping clean the house. I don't have cleaning his bedroom or the "guys" room on the list- those are just his responsibility- period.</p><p></p><p>And, right now I'm working with him on problem-solving skills, so, if he identifies a problem (must be valid) and brings it to the attention of an authority figure rather than acting impulsively, he gets a small bonus. If he proposes a solution and asks permission to implement it, he gets a little more of a bonus.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 161712, member: 3699"] I tied difficult child's chores to his allowance because otherwise it seemed like he would get the allowance whether he did the chores or not, and I didn't think he should get "paid" the same amount if he hadn't done his part for the week. However, since I am paying his restitution for his illegal activities last year and since I do think that part of what is expected of him should be done because he lives here (I still want him to learn that he has to pitch in and help- no one pays ME for it), he only gets 1/3 of what I deem the job to be worth. The thinking is that 1/3 goes to pay me back for restitution, 1/3 is because you live here, and 1/3 he pockets. His chores include taking garbage out, helping cook dinner some nights, sometimes there are handy-man chores he can do, yardwork, washing car, unloading dishwasher, sweeping porch/deck, carrying groceries in from the car, helping clean the house. I don't have cleaning his bedroom or the "guys" room on the list- those are just his responsibility- period. And, right now I'm working with him on problem-solving skills, so, if he identifies a problem (must be valid) and brings it to the attention of an authority figure rather than acting impulsively, he gets a small bonus. If he proposes a solution and asks permission to implement it, he gets a little more of a bonus. [/QUOTE]
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