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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 584553" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Dash, I was reading your post and recalling last year when my difficult child was living in a huge green tent outside our living-room patio, you may remember the absurdity of that and how my granddaughter had trouble trying to explain to her friends why her mother was living with 4 cats in a tent in our yard. Sigh. Anyway, with each bizarre behavior pattern we kept setting more and more limits, we actually took away the keys to the house because her "friends" were lurking around...... and these were people I would call the police on if I saw them in the neighborhood. .......we didn't feel safe and made it very, very clear that her friends were NOT to be around our home..........the very next day after the talk, I saw a bike parked by the fence in the front yard. When I asked my difficult child about it questioning whose bike it was, her response was "one of my friends, he just came over to rub my back because I hurt my back." She was not able or willing to make the connection between what we said, our concerns, our requests and her actions. Shortly thereafter, she left our home stating that we just had too many restrictions on her behavior to be able to live with us. I don't know about your difficult child, but mine experiences everyday normal conditions and courtesy as authority that she must rail against and not obey. </p><p></p><p>When your home is concerned and these miscreants are allowed entry, you are no longer safe and your difficult child does not have the inherent social wisdom to make choices which will keep your environment safe. If you aren't there already, you appear to be heading towards either requesting her departure or really battening down the hatches in your home. I'm sorry, I really know how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 584553, member: 13542"] Dash, I was reading your post and recalling last year when my difficult child was living in a huge green tent outside our living-room patio, you may remember the absurdity of that and how my granddaughter had trouble trying to explain to her friends why her mother was living with 4 cats in a tent in our yard. Sigh. Anyway, with each bizarre behavior pattern we kept setting more and more limits, we actually took away the keys to the house because her "friends" were lurking around...... and these were people I would call the police on if I saw them in the neighborhood. .......we didn't feel safe and made it very, very clear that her friends were NOT to be around our home..........the very next day after the talk, I saw a bike parked by the fence in the front yard. When I asked my difficult child about it questioning whose bike it was, her response was "one of my friends, he just came over to rub my back because I hurt my back." She was not able or willing to make the connection between what we said, our concerns, our requests and her actions. Shortly thereafter, she left our home stating that we just had too many restrictions on her behavior to be able to live with us. I don't know about your difficult child, but mine experiences everyday normal conditions and courtesy as authority that she must rail against and not obey. When your home is concerned and these miscreants are allowed entry, you are no longer safe and your difficult child does not have the inherent social wisdom to make choices which will keep your environment safe. If you aren't there already, you appear to be heading towards either requesting her departure or really battening down the hatches in your home. I'm sorry, I really know how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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