...prayers and hugs from Northern California......
Circle of Support for New Leaf and her Husband
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Scent of Cedar *
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Giant hugs from Florida, Leafy.
Cedar
Cedar
New Leaf
Well-Known Member
Mahalo nui all.
I have never felt such a deep chasm within my heart.
My soul cries out in anguish as so many emotions wash over me.
There is some small relief in knowing that my hubs is no longer suffering.
A part of me has wandered off.
I keep waiting for him to return home to me.
The morning is filled with birdsong, yet my mind is wracked with unspeakable sorrow.
There is no way to prepare for a loss so great.
Hold your loved one close.
Do not let the tyranny of d cs addiction drive a wedge between your relationship with your mate.
Truly I say to you, these months I have been here processing all we have gone through, running the tapes of our struggle to help our d cs,
are evidence of the desperation and toll it took on the both of us as parents,
as people,
as friends,
lovers,
soul mates.
We were grieving heavily in our own way,
hubs being quiet and determined to stay strong,
I wanting to talk with him,
he could not go there.
I know that he was suffering silently.
It is not right that our beloved adult children,
whom we sacrificed for,
worked hard to parent
and teach the right things,
should use that love against us
to perpetuate their choices.
For those of you who read this,
and are struggling with the devastation
of your d cs lifestyle,
please act quickly and decisively to save yourselves,
your relationship.
Hold each other close.
Seek counseling.
Honor your marriage first and foremost,
cherish and value each other.
I miss my hubs with all my being.
I shall not drown in my grief, for I must go on.
I pray to Akua to wrap us in his loving embrace
and comfort my family and I.
With all my heart, I thank you for your support.
Me ke Aloha,
Leaf
I have never felt such a deep chasm within my heart.
My soul cries out in anguish as so many emotions wash over me.
There is some small relief in knowing that my hubs is no longer suffering.
A part of me has wandered off.
I keep waiting for him to return home to me.
The morning is filled with birdsong, yet my mind is wracked with unspeakable sorrow.
There is no way to prepare for a loss so great.
Hold your loved one close.
Do not let the tyranny of d cs addiction drive a wedge between your relationship with your mate.
Truly I say to you, these months I have been here processing all we have gone through, running the tapes of our struggle to help our d cs,
are evidence of the desperation and toll it took on the both of us as parents,
as people,
as friends,
lovers,
soul mates.
We were grieving heavily in our own way,
hubs being quiet and determined to stay strong,
I wanting to talk with him,
he could not go there.
I know that he was suffering silently.
It is not right that our beloved adult children,
whom we sacrificed for,
worked hard to parent
and teach the right things,
should use that love against us
to perpetuate their choices.
For those of you who read this,
and are struggling with the devastation
of your d cs lifestyle,
please act quickly and decisively to save yourselves,
your relationship.
Hold each other close.
Seek counseling.
Honor your marriage first and foremost,
cherish and value each other.
I miss my hubs with all my being.
I shall not drown in my grief, for I must go on.
I pray to Akua to wrap us in his loving embrace
and comfort my family and I.
With all my heart, I thank you for your support.
Me ke Aloha,
Leaf
pigless in VA
Well-Known Member
Leafy, when my husband died, spending time with the young children at the preschool helped me. There was something about their innocence and unbridled joy in life that grounded me. Gentle hugs for your aching heart.
PonyGirl65
Active Member
Leafy...I wish I had words to convey my deepest heartfelt sympathy. I am holding you in my heart, dear sweet friend.
From Northern Wisconsin and on to....
From Northern Wisconsin and on to....
Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
Your message to us is beautiful, Leafy. Thank you. I will sit very near my D H today.
He will be so surprised.
We won't tell him why, but I will be thinking of you, and of your D H, and of time.
My heartfelt condolences to you and to your children, Leafy.
Cedar
He will be so surprised.
We won't tell him why, but I will be thinking of you, and of your D H, and of time.
My heartfelt condolences to you and to your children, Leafy.
Cedar
LittleDudesMom
Well-Known Member
Leafy,
I didn't really know you but I send thoughts of comfort as you grieve this great loss. Your words were beautiful, heart-felt, and a lesson for those who forget the joy of sharing your life with someone you love through the struggles of difficult children or just when life gets in the way.
I pray that your heart will mend through the memories of good times and you are able to hear those birds sing in joy again.
Sharon
I didn't really know you but I send thoughts of comfort as you grieve this great loss. Your words were beautiful, heart-felt, and a lesson for those who forget the joy of sharing your life with someone you love through the struggles of difficult children or just when life gets in the way.
I pray that your heart will mend through the memories of good times and you are able to hear those birds sing in joy again.
Sharon
Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
I am posting to bring this thread back up for New Leaf's sake. When we are grieving, knowing others are thinking of us and knowing too, that there is nothing we need do but relish the quiet comfort of wordless support is good for us.
Holding you in our thoughts and prayers, New Leaf.
Cedar
Holding you in our thoughts and prayers, New Leaf.
Cedar
