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Closing in on 60...any tips on how to feel good about it?
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 376478" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well first off - Happy Pre-rated Birthday. (as opposed to Be-Lated) </p><p> </p><p>Next since your therapist is out of town I'll share mine with you, or rather his advice on growing older and feeling older and all things cliche'. Anyone who ever said "You're only as old as you feel? Has never felt old. Then again what does old feel like? If you're 20 you know what 5, 10, 15 even 17, 18.19 feel like. You remember things you did, joys, heartaches, dreams and goals about each age you reached. There are unfortunately also regrets, but our failures often allow us to strive harder for our goals or to know that it's okay that we did our best and be satisfied with it. Never 'settle' but satisfied. </p><p> </p><p>So at 20 were you able to understand how it felt to be 40? Nope. Why not? Because you had not lived it yet. Could you understand what anyone who was 50 and complaining about health problems, gray hair, aching bones, actually talking about at 30? Maybe. But until you've reached an age you really have no idea how it's going to feel, be or sit with you. What you CAN do is make the most out of the time you do have. The days that ARE given to you. Realize that inside yourself up to this point you are a vibrant, wonderful, smart, woman with 59 years of experience, life, visions, dreams, heartaches, goals...and whatever it is at 59, that you haven't done yet? Tell yourself that with 50 years experience behind you - WHAT is there that you could have accomplished at 30,40,50 knowing what you know now that YOU COULD do at 60? Could you go back to school? Sure. Could you run a marathon? Take up ballroom dancing? Sure. Could you train for a kickboxing event? Paint a portrait, train a dog, open a business, volunteer more hours a week at a shelter, be the person that you KNEW you wanted to be someday - when you lacked the experience to BE that person? </p><p> </p><p>So what holds you back? Physical limitations? Okay then - WHAT is it at 59 going on 60 that you WANT to do - and CAN"T do because you will be 60? Nothing. Not a thing. </p><p> </p><p>YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT TO DO AND EVEN MORE THAN MOST OF US HERE CAN DO BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE EXPERIENCE, and HISTORY and KNOWLEDGE that a lovely an vibrant woman of 59 has ----</p><p> </p><p>YOU JUST NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AS MUCH AS I DO.......and besides that I'm almost 46 - and I'm sexy as all get out, and I'm scared out of my witts.....but I'm trying new things EVERY DAY - EVERY SINGLE WEEK I make myself try something new - so that by the time I'm 59? I'm gonna be so stinkin' smart - I just won't know what to do with myself. ---------and NEITHER WILL ANY OF YOU. </p><p> </p><p>I want you MWM to find (between now and your BD) YOUR INNER WOMAN I CAN DO ANYTHING ATTITUDE.........and make yourself a list of WHY you are better NOW than you were when you were (pick an age) </p><p> </p><p>Then make another list of all the completely silly to absolutely dooable things you CAN do - and see how many you can cross off before your birthday - </p><p> </p><p>one of mine included streaking across my yard........at midnight with .......chicken liver in a box......and a roll of tape. on a full moon........YUP. And that's all I'm gonna say about that. </p><p> </p><p>(do not copy me - I know where you live and I'm out in the country and you could get arrested........although---if getting arrested is on your list of NEED TO KNOW......then by all means - RUN GIRL RUN! ) <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Other than that - Give yourself permission to have fun.....you're not going to get ANYONE's permission to grow older. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 376478, member: 4964"] Well first off - Happy Pre-rated Birthday. (as opposed to Be-Lated) Next since your therapist is out of town I'll share mine with you, or rather his advice on growing older and feeling older and all things cliche'. Anyone who ever said "You're only as old as you feel? Has never felt old. Then again what does old feel like? If you're 20 you know what 5, 10, 15 even 17, 18.19 feel like. You remember things you did, joys, heartaches, dreams and goals about each age you reached. There are unfortunately also regrets, but our failures often allow us to strive harder for our goals or to know that it's okay that we did our best and be satisfied with it. Never 'settle' but satisfied. So at 20 were you able to understand how it felt to be 40? Nope. Why not? Because you had not lived it yet. Could you understand what anyone who was 50 and complaining about health problems, gray hair, aching bones, actually talking about at 30? Maybe. But until you've reached an age you really have no idea how it's going to feel, be or sit with you. What you CAN do is make the most out of the time you do have. The days that ARE given to you. Realize that inside yourself up to this point you are a vibrant, wonderful, smart, woman with 59 years of experience, life, visions, dreams, heartaches, goals...and whatever it is at 59, that you haven't done yet? Tell yourself that with 50 years experience behind you - WHAT is there that you could have accomplished at 30,40,50 knowing what you know now that YOU COULD do at 60? Could you go back to school? Sure. Could you run a marathon? Take up ballroom dancing? Sure. Could you train for a kickboxing event? Paint a portrait, train a dog, open a business, volunteer more hours a week at a shelter, be the person that you KNEW you wanted to be someday - when you lacked the experience to BE that person? So what holds you back? Physical limitations? Okay then - WHAT is it at 59 going on 60 that you WANT to do - and CAN"T do because you will be 60? Nothing. Not a thing. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT TO DO AND EVEN MORE THAN MOST OF US HERE CAN DO BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE EXPERIENCE, and HISTORY and KNOWLEDGE that a lovely an vibrant woman of 59 has ---- YOU JUST NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AS MUCH AS I DO.......and besides that I'm almost 46 - and I'm sexy as all get out, and I'm scared out of my witts.....but I'm trying new things EVERY DAY - EVERY SINGLE WEEK I make myself try something new - so that by the time I'm 59? I'm gonna be so stinkin' smart - I just won't know what to do with myself. ---------and NEITHER WILL ANY OF YOU. I want you MWM to find (between now and your BD) YOUR INNER WOMAN I CAN DO ANYTHING ATTITUDE.........and make yourself a list of WHY you are better NOW than you were when you were (pick an age) Then make another list of all the completely silly to absolutely dooable things you CAN do - and see how many you can cross off before your birthday - one of mine included streaking across my yard........at midnight with .......chicken liver in a box......and a roll of tape. on a full moon........YUP. And that's all I'm gonna say about that. (do not copy me - I know where you live and I'm out in the country and you could get arrested........although---if getting arrested is on your list of NEED TO KNOW......then by all means - RUN GIRL RUN! ) :raspberry-tounge: Other than that - Give yourself permission to have fun.....you're not going to get ANYONE's permission to grow older. Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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