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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 614476" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. You're in a tough spot with her living away from home. Not that it's great when this happens and they are at home either. I will tell you what I'd probably do in your situation. It doesn't mean you should do it, just what I'd do.</p><p></p><p>First off, I'd want my daughter to come home and go to school here rather than away. If she is shy, maybe she is one of those kids who is better off at home. My one daughter who used drugs was very shy and that was one reason she told me she used them. If you are paying in any way for her college education, you have a say so in where she gets her education and if she is self-destructing in college, I personally would not want to pay for that. I wouldn't want to help pay for someplace where my child was acting dangerously. LSD is not the same as pot. I don't feel either drug is good for you, and pot can be dangerous to some people, but LSD can play with your mind in a serious way, especially in somebody prone to anxiety/depression. I would not be able to forgive myself if I allowed my daughter to live at school and something happened with LSD or any other drug. </p><p></p><p>The second step I'd take would be to try to encourage her to go for counseling specifically to stop using drugs. Her antidepressant will not kick in if she smokes pot every day and then uses other stuff besides. That sort of neutralizes the effect of the antidepressant. Pot actually is more of a downer, I believe. I would make a "sober only" rule at home. That's kind of what I did and when my daughter would not obey the house rules, she had to leave and find somewhere else to stay, which she did. From there, she quit. Even cigarettes. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion another problem with your daughter in school now is that her peers know she is somebody who uses drugs and she may be under increased pressure to use them. How good is she at saying "no?" She sounds like basically a good kid who needs a different direction in her life right now, even if it means postponing college for the meantime and focusing on becoming healthy. Now if she refuses to quit using drugs, that's when "tough love" comes in. Hopefully she won't need it.</p><p></p><p>Suicide is always in the back of our minds. You are not alone. Although it happens all too often, it still is not the rule.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry about your hurting mommy heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 614476, member: 1550"] Hi there. You're in a tough spot with her living away from home. Not that it's great when this happens and they are at home either. I will tell you what I'd probably do in your situation. It doesn't mean you should do it, just what I'd do. First off, I'd want my daughter to come home and go to school here rather than away. If she is shy, maybe she is one of those kids who is better off at home. My one daughter who used drugs was very shy and that was one reason she told me she used them. If you are paying in any way for her college education, you have a say so in where she gets her education and if she is self-destructing in college, I personally would not want to pay for that. I wouldn't want to help pay for someplace where my child was acting dangerously. LSD is not the same as pot. I don't feel either drug is good for you, and pot can be dangerous to some people, but LSD can play with your mind in a serious way, especially in somebody prone to anxiety/depression. I would not be able to forgive myself if I allowed my daughter to live at school and something happened with LSD or any other drug. The second step I'd take would be to try to encourage her to go for counseling specifically to stop using drugs. Her antidepressant will not kick in if she smokes pot every day and then uses other stuff besides. That sort of neutralizes the effect of the antidepressant. Pot actually is more of a downer, I believe. I would make a "sober only" rule at home. That's kind of what I did and when my daughter would not obey the house rules, she had to leave and find somewhere else to stay, which she did. From there, she quit. Even cigarettes. in my opinion another problem with your daughter in school now is that her peers know she is somebody who uses drugs and she may be under increased pressure to use them. How good is she at saying "no?" She sounds like basically a good kid who needs a different direction in her life right now, even if it means postponing college for the meantime and focusing on becoming healthy. Now if she refuses to quit using drugs, that's when "tough love" comes in. Hopefully she won't need it. Suicide is always in the back of our minds. You are not alone. Although it happens all too often, it still is not the rule. I am sorry about your hurting mommy heart. [/QUOTE]
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