I came across this forum whilst dealing with some family stuff. I can see that this site is for parents and I respect that it is a place to seek solace, comfort and support, and were it not for my FOO I might well have been one. But in some ways I have always been one from such a young age - I have my soul to parent! My reason for being here is to get the viewpoint my mother may have - there is any irony in that statement! I am posting because I found the thread below which absolutely described what I have just gone through and I feel such relief. It really has been like going cold turkey as I imagine it to be. http://www.conductdisorders.com/com...onship-very-good-article.61479/#axzz4ENZEdL3g I have always known my mother was odd and selfish in the extreme, but only recently after many years of trying to have a harmonious relationship with her (I'm now in my 50s) and failing, have I realised it's time to pull the plug. The decision came out of a place of frustration and anger, but had that not been the case, it might never have happened and I am now grateful that it did. Putting my welfare first should have happened decades ago. I am moving forward in my journey and I am starting to feel that although alone in this, but with the support of a wonderful husband, I am starting to see the light and feeling the sense of freedom. I now understand, but know that I can only change my life and have to leave behind regret and guilt. I had almost no contact with my birth father who died a few years back now, and my stepfather was underdeveloped and out of his depth taking on 2 children. My mother had issues from a young age and whilst she lives in a world of self help psychological healing, seems unable to put in place what she reads and learns. I hope one day she realises that she has been too wrapped up in herself to notice the damage she did to her children. My downfall is seeing things from others' perspectives too much. I am on my way to becoming a whole me and in the process must also look at the traits in me that I need to change. I know Motherearth and Fathersun will look after me along the way.