Here's the letter I've written for difficult child to turn into school tomorrow to verify that he did community service. The principal didn't seem to mind what it was (it was short notice). She said it could be pet-sitting, neighbor's yardwork, basicly anything. My issue is with what brought this on. This is written to the principal- actually per the advice of the probation officer who is concerned that the other kid is just seeking to cause difficult child big problems. Any suggestions, comments? "This is to verify that XXX provided 12 hours of community service over the holiday break. The service included providing plants to two assisted living communities. XXX prepared 30 pots, planted ten different types of seeds, labeled pots, took care of plants until they started sprouting, and delivered them. Additionally, he helped a couple who both have health problems by doing yardwork for them. Although I appreciate your decision to allow community service in lieu of suspending XXX from school, I would like to stress that the details I have heard from both you and XXX indicate this was a situation of self-defense. It greatly concerns me that another student could be so instigating, physically aggressive toward XXX, not stop when XXX tried to push him away, grab XXXs neck twice hard enough to leave a mark on his throat for over a week, slam XXX into a wall, and when XXX hit him in the side and pushed him he still didnt stop, yet XXX is left with a violation of the code of conduct for fighting. I would appreciate a second review of this situation, especially if the incident is going to be reported in XXXs record and to the probation officer, the Guardian ad Litem, and the judge as fighting with no explanation of what actually transpired. Furthermore, if the other student did not get more punishment than 12 hours of community service, I consider that an outrage. We all know that XXX would be in much more serious trouble had the situation been reversed, however, XXX has never been that physically aggressive. The actions of that student indicate a serious problem and should not be handled the same as the actions of one trying to defend himself or even the same as a youthful squabble that became physical. It would appear that the other student will continue to provoke these situations and could physically attack again. For this reason, I trust you will make sure that the other student involved will have no further opportunities to instigate incidents involving XXX in the future. And I trust this will be done without XXX being punished or singled out."