Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
concern or not?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 340875" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>CM</p><p></p><p>You have gotten good advice from SW. </p><p></p><p>For what its worth, I think that husband is probably reacting to what difficult child is saying due to his own issues. How much is difficult child alone with husband? In addition to being overtired etc, perhaps you are his rock and maybe husband pushed a few buttons too that would have not been good to push.</p><p></p><p>I would definitely tell therapist. But my own experience with my kids is that if he isn't saying that he wants to die on a regular basis it is probably more symptomatic of a kid that is just overtired. We as adults get to the point sometimes where we can't look at things rationally when we are overtired or stressed out. Kids can give voice to all these thoughts (ie I wish you were dead mom when they are mad at you which just reflects the emotion of the moment but doesn't mean they have any intent to carry it out). On the other hand, if he is saying this often it would at a minimum be symptomatic of some issues, though not necessarily suicidal intentions.</p><p></p><p>At one point I had to say to my child --with a therapist's support that I was taking his talk about wanting to be dead seriously and take him to the hospital. Therapist was also pretty clear that his talk about wanting to be dead was more of a "my life sucks kind of thing" rather than a "I want to kill myself" thing so I didn't overreact. But we did go to work on the my life sucks issues. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. Glad husband is doing better.</p><p>P.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 340875, member: 2322"] CM You have gotten good advice from SW. For what its worth, I think that husband is probably reacting to what difficult child is saying due to his own issues. How much is difficult child alone with husband? In addition to being overtired etc, perhaps you are his rock and maybe husband pushed a few buttons too that would have not been good to push. I would definitely tell therapist. But my own experience with my kids is that if he isn't saying that he wants to die on a regular basis it is probably more symptomatic of a kid that is just overtired. We as adults get to the point sometimes where we can't look at things rationally when we are overtired or stressed out. Kids can give voice to all these thoughts (ie I wish you were dead mom when they are mad at you which just reflects the emotion of the moment but doesn't mean they have any intent to carry it out). On the other hand, if he is saying this often it would at a minimum be symptomatic of some issues, though not necessarily suicidal intentions. At one point I had to say to my child --with a therapist's support that I was taking his talk about wanting to be dead seriously and take him to the hospital. Therapist was also pretty clear that his talk about wanting to be dead was more of a "my life sucks kind of thing" rather than a "I want to kill myself" thing so I didn't overreact. But we did go to work on the my life sucks issues. Hang in there. Glad husband is doing better. P. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
concern or not?
Top