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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 417895" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think grandmas are the best and fill a great role in the life of our kids. But I agree with much of what KTMom said...if he lived with you, you would likely see his issues. I'm not saying that some of them are not environmental...frankly, he is surrounded by chaos with both your daughter in law and, yes, your son. I know he couldn't help being deployed, but that was a stress for your grandson. He is being tossed back and forth by both parents and even if he starts only living in one place, his past will stay with him...he will not be that sweet boy that you see right now. He had a chaotic life at a very important time for a developing child and his problems won't just go away if the chaos stops. He will have "daddy" and "mommy" issues probably for many, many years.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure why your grandson is on medication, and I'm not a fan of SSRI anti-depressants or stimulants given together, but again you did not talk to the doctor and, frankly, there is nothing you can do about it. You are not the parent. Either one. Although you may think that the child will be better off just with with your son or with you, he loves his mom, with all her flaws.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to enjoy Jeff when he visits you, but to keep it at that. It is very unlikely that any judge will give you custody of Jeff over his mother and it doesn't sound like she is interested in giving up custody. The better you get along with you, the bigger a difference you can make with Jeff. "You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar." Granted, it's NOT easy, but it's better for Jeff and for your own health not to be so angry at your daughter in law. You simply have your hands tied. Basically, there is nothing you can do other than be there for Jeff.</p><p></p><p>Good luck! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 417895, member: 1550"] I think grandmas are the best and fill a great role in the life of our kids. But I agree with much of what KTMom said...if he lived with you, you would likely see his issues. I'm not saying that some of them are not environmental...frankly, he is surrounded by chaos with both your daughter in law and, yes, your son. I know he couldn't help being deployed, but that was a stress for your grandson. He is being tossed back and forth by both parents and even if he starts only living in one place, his past will stay with him...he will not be that sweet boy that you see right now. He had a chaotic life at a very important time for a developing child and his problems won't just go away if the chaos stops. He will have "daddy" and "mommy" issues probably for many, many years. I'm not sure why your grandson is on medication, and I'm not a fan of SSRI anti-depressants or stimulants given together, but again you did not talk to the doctor and, frankly, there is nothing you can do about it. You are not the parent. Either one. Although you may think that the child will be better off just with with your son or with you, he loves his mom, with all her flaws. My suggestion is to enjoy Jeff when he visits you, but to keep it at that. It is very unlikely that any judge will give you custody of Jeff over his mother and it doesn't sound like she is interested in giving up custody. The better you get along with you, the bigger a difference you can make with Jeff. "You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar." Granted, it's NOT easy, but it's better for Jeff and for your own health not to be so angry at your daughter in law. You simply have your hands tied. Basically, there is nothing you can do other than be there for Jeff. Good luck! :) [/QUOTE]
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