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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 418059" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I agree with the advice given by the other members. No matter how much you would like to intervene you just aren't in a position to do so. My husband and I have raised one grandson and provided a home to another for about seven years. It has been costly in many ways. Over the years many, many adult members in this group have shared that the influence of a caring and loving Gma gave them security and life lessons that allowed them to cope with less than ideal parenting. Knowing that they had a haven of support made life bearable and provided life lessons for their future.</p><p> </p><p>Children have a huge need to believe that their biological parents love them. They are very perceptive and store away the observations that they make about different methods of caring. Alot of parents just plain aren't good at doing the job <strong>but</strong> the kids cope as best they can because of the bond that exists. Having others giving off vibes of fear or criticism internalizes fears. It is darn near impossible to keep your concerns to yourself (believe me I absolutely know that) enhances the sense of safety that the grandchildren need. Do your best not to give off negative vibes. If you really believe the child is in danger then keep a secret journal that will allow you to document your fears...it will help you vent your stress. If there is no active abuse involved then it is in the best interests of the child for you to be a supportive Grandmother than he will know if part of his life. Understanding hugs coming your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 418059, member: 35"] I agree with the advice given by the other members. No matter how much you would like to intervene you just aren't in a position to do so. My husband and I have raised one grandson and provided a home to another for about seven years. It has been costly in many ways. Over the years many, many adult members in this group have shared that the influence of a caring and loving Gma gave them security and life lessons that allowed them to cope with less than ideal parenting. Knowing that they had a haven of support made life bearable and provided life lessons for their future. Children have a huge need to believe that their biological parents love them. They are very perceptive and store away the observations that they make about different methods of caring. Alot of parents just plain aren't good at doing the job [B]but[/B] the kids cope as best they can because of the bond that exists. Having others giving off vibes of fear or criticism internalizes fears. It is darn near impossible to keep your concerns to yourself (believe me I absolutely know that) enhances the sense of safety that the grandchildren need. Do your best not to give off negative vibes. If you really believe the child is in danger then keep a secret journal that will allow you to document your fears...it will help you vent your stress. If there is no active abuse involved then it is in the best interests of the child for you to be a supportive Grandmother than he will know if part of his life. Understanding hugs coming your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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