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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 423006" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p><span style="font-size: 10px">GmaKate,</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Yes, assumptions are sometimes made - especially when you don't have the full story. At one point, my Onyxx got into some questionable trouble and I felt attacked by a member here. That was not the case, but that's how I felt. Until I looked at what I'd said, and how that member took it <em>based on her own experience</em>.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">I assumed you were anti medication due to the fact that you stated:</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Also, you mentioned that the child's mother let the children behave one way when stepdad was not around, and another when he was; and that her marriage was in constant turmoil. I don't see where you stated that you dislike her, but I do see in your comments that you don't particularly like some of her actions. (This, to me, is completely normal...) In many of our cases, where there are step-parents and bios and adoptees - ad infinitum - it is so easy to make a simple, positive or neutral, comment and have it totally misconstrued. If there's something you don't like about xDIL's parenting, we hear that here - but of course, you may not say it in front of "Jeff". I have been admonished - in court - not to say another negative word about my kids' bio, to the kids - when in fact the quote that was being discussed was something <em>she</em> had said to the kids about husband. I understand this. Doesn't mean you did, just that that is what we heard based upon one post.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">In my experience, he's hearing this somewhere. I don't know where - but my Jett has been told he CAN'T and he is NASTY and STUPID and DIRTY and (my personal favorite) a MORON - so much he seems to believe it. Countless times I have heard husband, and I have, worked on removing these ideas. But he's getting them from somewhere we cannot control. Your role-playing with him was (in my uneducated, but parental, opinion) spot-on. (I could use some help with that one, myself.)</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">And you're right. In so many cases, spankings just make things worse. (So do verbal outbursts and throwing things - since you do speak with xDIL, maybe you could gently mention that stepfather acting this way really bothers "Jeff"? I don't know. Just a thought.)</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Last... HUGS. Cause we all need them.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 423006, member: 6705"] [SIZE=2]GmaKate,[/SIZE] [SIZE=2] [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Yes, assumptions are sometimes made - especially when you don't have the full story. At one point, my Onyxx got into some questionable trouble and I felt attacked by a member here. That was not the case, but that's how I felt. Until I looked at what I'd said, and how that member took it [I]based on her own experience[/I].[/SIZE] [SIZE=2] [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]I assumed you were anti medication due to the fact that you stated:[/SIZE] [SIZE=2] [/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Also, you mentioned that the child's mother let the children behave one way when stepdad was not around, and another when he was; and that her marriage was in constant turmoil. I don't see where you stated that you dislike her, but I do see in your comments that you don't particularly like some of her actions. (This, to me, is completely normal...) In many of our cases, where there are step-parents and bios and adoptees - ad infinitum - it is so easy to make a simple, positive or neutral, comment and have it totally misconstrued. If there's something you don't like about xDIL's parenting, we hear that here - but of course, you may not say it in front of "Jeff". I have been admonished - in court - not to say another negative word about my kids' bio, to the kids - when in fact the quote that was being discussed was something [I]she[/I] had said to the kids about husband. I understand this. Doesn't mean you did, just that that is what we heard based upon one post.[/SIZE] [SIZE=2][/SIZE] [SIZE=2]In my experience, he's hearing this somewhere. I don't know where - but my Jett has been told he CAN'T and he is NASTY and STUPID and DIRTY and (my personal favorite) a MORON - so much he seems to believe it. Countless times I have heard husband, and I have, worked on removing these ideas. But he's getting them from somewhere we cannot control. Your role-playing with him was (in my uneducated, but parental, opinion) spot-on. (I could use some help with that one, myself.)[/SIZE] [SIZE=2][/SIZE] [SIZE=2]And you're right. In so many cases, spankings just make things worse. (So do verbal outbursts and throwing things - since you do speak with xDIL, maybe you could gently mention that stepfather acting this way really bothers "Jeff"? I don't know. Just a thought.)[/SIZE] [SIZE=2][/SIZE] [SIZE=2]Last... HUGS. Cause we all need them.[/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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