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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 667559" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm so sorry! You need to think of your family safety first, to plan how to help him, if you can.</p><p></p><p>He could have reactive attachment disorder if his home life, especially those first three years, lacked a consistent, loving caregiver. If his birthmom took drugs or drank while pregnant, that could have affected his poor little developing brain. Alcohol consumption can cause fetal alcohol spectrum.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like he has problems similar to what children can have if they are adopted at an older age and had no consistent loving caregiver until the child got adopted (damage already done) or a child who grows up for several years in an orphanage where there is no love or caregiving.</p><p></p><p>We adopted a child who was like this. Is your nephew sexually inappropriate? Is he violent towards animals, does he like fire, or does he pee or poop in inappropriate places? Those are danger signs. Our adopted child was 13 when we found out the worst, after three years, and we decided to terminate the adoption to save our family. Literally, with what he had done, nobody would have felt safe unless he was removed. And in our case, he did it with a smile to adults and a threat to the kids and I feel so guilty but me and husband did not even have a clue at what he was pulling. He never got caught. We wish he had.</p><p></p><p>If he is dangerous to you, perhaps it's time to look around for an out-of-home treatment center so that he can heal while you and your other loved ones are safe. If you have children, especially younger, or beloved pets, I'd be careful about having him there, especially at night or out of your sight. Our child did his worst when we could not see him and our younger kids were afraid to tell us what he did because he threatened to burn th e house down and kill us all and they were terrified of him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 667559, member: 1550"] I'm so sorry! You need to think of your family safety first, to plan how to help him, if you can. He could have reactive attachment disorder if his home life, especially those first three years, lacked a consistent, loving caregiver. If his birthmom took drugs or drank while pregnant, that could have affected his poor little developing brain. Alcohol consumption can cause fetal alcohol spectrum. Sounds like he has problems similar to what children can have if they are adopted at an older age and had no consistent loving caregiver until the child got adopted (damage already done) or a child who grows up for several years in an orphanage where there is no love or caregiving. We adopted a child who was like this. Is your nephew sexually inappropriate? Is he violent towards animals, does he like fire, or does he pee or poop in inappropriate places? Those are danger signs. Our adopted child was 13 when we found out the worst, after three years, and we decided to terminate the adoption to save our family. Literally, with what he had done, nobody would have felt safe unless he was removed. And in our case, he did it with a smile to adults and a threat to the kids and I feel so guilty but me and husband did not even have a clue at what he was pulling. He never got caught. We wish he had. If he is dangerous to you, perhaps it's time to look around for an out-of-home treatment center so that he can heal while you and your other loved ones are safe. If you have children, especially younger, or beloved pets, I'd be careful about having him there, especially at night or out of your sight. Our child did his worst when we could not see him and our younger kids were afraid to tell us what he did because he threatened to burn th e house down and kill us all and they were terrified of him. [/QUOTE]
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