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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 276469" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I think you're right to be concerned. It really does sound like all that's happening is a pause. Nothing seems to be getting put in place to re-train him and teach him to manage his own behaviour, let alone help him medically.</p><p></p><p>You havew time, I agree with you that now is not to be a time for sitting on your hands. You need to make them keep you in the loop. Not sure how, apart from constantly pestering them for information as well as answers to questions like, "What is being put in place in order to ensure our rules can be enforced when he gets out? As things are now, he beleives he is coming home and he will be able to do exactly what he wants. This has NEVER been the case, which is why we are where we are now. We have an opportunity here to ensure something positive comes out of this. Please tell me - what do I need to do, to liaise with your plans for his future?"</p><p></p><p>And keep insisting on an answer. In writing. I would also let them know, in writing, of any inconsistency in information they have been getting (such as you alleged refusal to sign off on the IEP at the school). Everything incorrect - clarify/correct in writing. Whenever they continue to get it wrong - clarify in writing again. Also if they keep getting it wrong, clarify it AND ask for a letter back from them explainng how repeated clarifications are not making it into the files. Keep putting this in writing, minute phone calls and then follow up the phone call with a letter outlining what you discussed. You have to keep nagging in writing. While you do know how to detach (I'm certainly not going to tell you that!) you have to at the same time, keep nagging politely in writing, insisting that the records be straightened out and that you be kept in the loop. Every time, every incorrect thing, every omission. Thank the lord for word processors!</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child - you need to keep telling him, even if you have to do it in a letter, that if/when he comes home, there will be rules and it won't be all a lovely holiday with servants laid on. The sooner he takes this on board, the sooner he can begin to REALLY work towards your common goal.</p><p></p><p>You have your head screwed on right over this, you can see the oncoming train. But I think you need help and support (I am sure you see this too) and somehow, you need to find ways to make this happen.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 276469, member: 1991"] I think you're right to be concerned. It really does sound like all that's happening is a pause. Nothing seems to be getting put in place to re-train him and teach him to manage his own behaviour, let alone help him medically. You havew time, I agree with you that now is not to be a time for sitting on your hands. You need to make them keep you in the loop. Not sure how, apart from constantly pestering them for information as well as answers to questions like, "What is being put in place in order to ensure our rules can be enforced when he gets out? As things are now, he beleives he is coming home and he will be able to do exactly what he wants. This has NEVER been the case, which is why we are where we are now. We have an opportunity here to ensure something positive comes out of this. Please tell me - what do I need to do, to liaise with your plans for his future?" And keep insisting on an answer. In writing. I would also let them know, in writing, of any inconsistency in information they have been getting (such as you alleged refusal to sign off on the IEP at the school). Everything incorrect - clarify/correct in writing. Whenever they continue to get it wrong - clarify in writing again. Also if they keep getting it wrong, clarify it AND ask for a letter back from them explainng how repeated clarifications are not making it into the files. Keep putting this in writing, minute phone calls and then follow up the phone call with a letter outlining what you discussed. You have to keep nagging in writing. While you do know how to detach (I'm certainly not going to tell you that!) you have to at the same time, keep nagging politely in writing, insisting that the records be straightened out and that you be kept in the loop. Every time, every incorrect thing, every omission. Thank the lord for word processors! As for difficult child - you need to keep telling him, even if you have to do it in a letter, that if/when he comes home, there will be rules and it won't be all a lovely holiday with servants laid on. The sooner he takes this on board, the sooner he can begin to REALLY work towards your common goal. You have your head screwed on right over this, you can see the oncoming train. But I think you need help and support (I am sure you see this too) and somehow, you need to find ways to make this happen. Marg [/QUOTE]
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