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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 146052" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>It sounds like your dad really loves difficult child. That's a <em>good</em> thing! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> He's also older and wiser than he was when he raised you, so that may account for some of the changes you are seeing.</p><p></p><p>I think I would encourage difficult child to talk to his guidance counselar about his hopes for the future. At this age, any ambition that isn't illegal is a good one! LOL! M used to tell everyone that he either wanted to be "a gangster or a pirate." The sad part of that was, he <em>knew</em> he had to make a choice and couldn't do it - it wasn't really a joke. He couldn't bring himself to choose. If your difficult child wants to be in forensics, he'd better bring that D in algebra up. But let the guidance counselor tell him that! A D is a passing grade, and your difficult child knows that.</p><p></p><p>I understand your frustration about his classes, but in hindsight, the most important thing is that they get enough credits to graduate. If they have a goal, even one that you don't appreciate, they're more likely to do that. More often than not, by the time they are graduating high school, whatever goal it was that got them through those four years has changed. You can't sweat it now, you'll be miserable for too long!</p><p></p><p>Just stick with the basics. And encourage your dad to talk to your mom about what they are both comfortable with. They deserve to be able to support and comfort each other.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 146052, member: 99"] It sounds like your dad really loves difficult child. That's a [i]good[/i] thing! ;) He's also older and wiser than he was when he raised you, so that may account for some of the changes you are seeing. I think I would encourage difficult child to talk to his guidance counselar about his hopes for the future. At this age, any ambition that isn't illegal is a good one! LOL! M used to tell everyone that he either wanted to be "a gangster or a pirate." The sad part of that was, he [i]knew[/i] he had to make a choice and couldn't do it - it wasn't really a joke. He couldn't bring himself to choose. If your difficult child wants to be in forensics, he'd better bring that D in algebra up. But let the guidance counselor tell him that! A D is a passing grade, and your difficult child knows that. I understand your frustration about his classes, but in hindsight, the most important thing is that they get enough credits to graduate. If they have a goal, even one that you don't appreciate, they're more likely to do that. More often than not, by the time they are graduating high school, whatever goal it was that got them through those four years has changed. You can't sweat it now, you'll be miserable for too long! Just stick with the basics. And encourage your dad to talk to your mom about what they are both comfortable with. They deserve to be able to support and comfort each other. [/QUOTE]
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