STRESSEDTOMAX
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Hi All...
Just wondering how you all handle consequences. Like I said yesterday, Tommy was suspended for at least today for leaving school property yesterday. This, of course, has its own consequences as far as missing a Pep Rally that took place yesterday, possibly missing a school trip tomorrow, and making the chances of him going to Washington Difficult Child with his class in March very doubtful. This would upset him very much. He wants to go very badly. As far as consequences at home such as losing something, like dessert or TV or something like that, though I feel like I'm being a bad parent, and I know for a fact some people think I'm doing the wrong thing, I don't do it. As far as I can tell, consequences have never mattered much to difficult child and have never seemed to prevent the same behavior from happening again. In fact, additional consequences often lead to explosions that lead right back to the hospital. I have a real problem with my family members who don't seem to understand that this is not your typical "give a consequence...learn from it" type of kid. Anybody have any thoughts on this? I don't want difficult child to grow up thinking there's no consequences to actions and so continue to do these behaviors, but then again, I don't even know how much of this is in his control to begin with. Thanks
Just wondering how you all handle consequences. Like I said yesterday, Tommy was suspended for at least today for leaving school property yesterday. This, of course, has its own consequences as far as missing a Pep Rally that took place yesterday, possibly missing a school trip tomorrow, and making the chances of him going to Washington Difficult Child with his class in March very doubtful. This would upset him very much. He wants to go very badly. As far as consequences at home such as losing something, like dessert or TV or something like that, though I feel like I'm being a bad parent, and I know for a fact some people think I'm doing the wrong thing, I don't do it. As far as I can tell, consequences have never mattered much to difficult child and have never seemed to prevent the same behavior from happening again. In fact, additional consequences often lead to explosions that lead right back to the hospital. I have a real problem with my family members who don't seem to understand that this is not your typical "give a consequence...learn from it" type of kid. Anybody have any thoughts on this? I don't want difficult child to grow up thinking there's no consequences to actions and so continue to do these behaviors, but then again, I don't even know how much of this is in his control to begin with. Thanks