I had a text from my 26 year old son today, asking me to phone him. He's been living rough in a farm squat since last October. I haven't seen him since Christmas. I phoned. He sounds OK, quite upbeat. He wants me to drive and pick him up from the forest, he wants to come and stay for a couple of days. It's Mothers' day here at the end of March (do you have Mothers' Day in the States?). He suggested coming near to that date. I ran it by my husband (his step-father). He doesn't say much but I know he's not keen on having my son here. He pointed out that it's never been successful in the past (I'm well aware of that). My son always gets agitated after a few hours and either sulks or get wound up about something and creates a really uncomfortable atmosphere in our house. Also, when he turned up for a couple of days at Christmas he was absolutely filthy and smelled really badly. So, I'm really torn. I would like to see him obviously, but I know it will be stressful. Ideally I'd like my husband to have a few days holiday somewhere with our youngest daughter so that I could have my son here for a couple of days and not worry about the effect he was having on everyone else. But that's ridiculous. Why should my husband not be here just because my son wants to visit? I'm so sad and torn in two about the situation, even though I've definitely detached from my son as his 'mummy' and as his source of financial handouts. I miss him.