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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 257496" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I wonder if birth order is a factor in how strongly affected kids are.</p><p></p><p>I think older children remember a time "before difficult child". They've had an opportunity to establish themselves in the family structure, and possibly are better able to establish social and support systems outside of the immediate family.</p><p></p><p>With PCs who are younger than their difficult child siblings, they come into a family already dealing with difficult child-dom. They don't know any other way. And from the difficult child's perspective, any older brothers or sisters were already on the scene, part of the family. New ones that come along after the fact are interlopers.</p><p></p><p>I know that my difficult child had a lot of trouble with having a little brother. He really resented getting knocked off his "baby of the family" pedestal. He resents Step-D as well, but she was there first and in his perception he displaced her in the same way that he sees Little easy child as having displaced him.</p><p></p><p>Being the "accident" that followed quickly on the heels of the beloved first-born son, my own family dynamic was a bit different, but I think being last in the birth order played a part in the level of torment that my older difficult child-brother heaped on me. Somehow I think being the older sister might have carried a bit of weight somehow. Perhaps not. That's a "what if" that I don't normally think about.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 257496, member: 3907"] I wonder if birth order is a factor in how strongly affected kids are. I think older children remember a time "before difficult child". They've had an opportunity to establish themselves in the family structure, and possibly are better able to establish social and support systems outside of the immediate family. With PCs who are younger than their difficult child siblings, they come into a family already dealing with difficult child-dom. They don't know any other way. And from the difficult child's perspective, any older brothers or sisters were already on the scene, part of the family. New ones that come along after the fact are interlopers. I know that my difficult child had a lot of trouble with having a little brother. He really resented getting knocked off his "baby of the family" pedestal. He resents Step-D as well, but she was there first and in his perception he displaced her in the same way that he sees Little easy child as having displaced him. Being the "accident" that followed quickly on the heels of the beloved first-born son, my own family dynamic was a bit different, but I think being last in the birth order played a part in the level of torment that my older difficult child-brother heaped on me. Somehow I think being the older sister might have carried a bit of weight somehow. Perhaps not. That's a "what if" that I don't normally think about. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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