husband and I just had the weirdest experience this Christmas. Warning: This is just one of those annoying easy child kinda things. Definately NOT a difficult child thing. When I think about it...should be thanking my lucky stars, huh??? Anyway....there are still frustrations in the easy child world. Our son recently married to a lovely gal with several lovely relatives. However, some of her closer relatives are not the easiest folks to work with it and the weird thing is that they kinda run the show. So, when we try to coordinate get togethers with them, it is almost impossible. They seem to be throw-backs from the 1960s and they don't plan anything and although this is fine if it is just one or two people or just a couple and their young kids, but if it is several couples, it is basically impossible. Example: So, they'll say we might meet for breakfast or brunch the next day..but wont tell us where or what time. They following day, we are suppose to sit and wait for a call. That call might come anytime between 8 a.m. and 12 noon. If you are doing something else, well, you'll miss out. If you really would like to go with the family (in this case because our son was trying to go), then that would mean basically sitting in your hotel room until you get the call). That is just one example. This was going on all the time for all events. So, husband and I could not plan anything on our own or make a decision if we wanted to do anything else. We were constantly waiting for phone calls never knowing where we were going or when we were going. When we asked, we were looked at like we were crazy to ask such a silly question. For one evening event, I wanted to do something else, so I asked if they could give me a rough idea of when they were going to go and get back and I would coordinate my "thing" around the same time and meet up with the group later. No one could do this. They just couldn't get a time in their mind and they were afraid to ask the patriarch of the family (who has some minor difficult child tendencies) to make a final decision of when he might want to leave and when he might want to come back. Even when I suggested that it would just be an estimate, they thought this would be asking too much. So, the entire group of people (several families) just sits and waits for the phone call and then moves out. Does this seem strange to you? What do other farmilies do when they are trying to coordinate things with groups of people? Does one person from the area kinda remain in charge and gets input and then makes a schedule? We REALLY enjoyed seeing our son for the holidays and had a good time, but the lack of coordination made me uncomfortable and unhappy and in the end, we pretty much made the decision to alternate holidays.