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<blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 765007" data-attributes="member: 32799"><p>For me Dad34 it’s easier to read either books or this group here. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /> I have a support group in my area but, takes a monumental effort to do anything these days. My lifelong issue with depression/anxiety is only compounded by my daughter’s issues. Trying with all I have to break free of this cycle. Hope the book inspires you as it did me. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p><p></p><p>You were saying to Copa how you messaged your daughter with no response. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😢" title="Crying face :cry:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f622.png" data-shortname=":cry:" /> Having tried multiple ways in past to be in my daughters life, the times she did just up and leave us, the time I found her an apartment….she would only contact me when she needed something. Looking back on this just clearly puts into my mind the manipulation, the control they have over us. I think my daughter fed on my need for her, used it against me time and again. My son, who does not have the mental issues his sister does, we had the same relationship. As he is getting older things are changing for us, he realizes what he has been doing all these years and we have a closer relationship now as he figured out the pain he caused me. He has a completely different outlook on his childhood compared to my daughter. Said that his childhood was amazing and he could not have better parents. I am comforted by that as those thoughts of what I did wrong were for nothing. I suspect this is the same with you too. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /> Because we are blaming ourselves, overthinking each tiny detail, as you said about your last conversation with your daughter, maybe we are not the problem after all much as they try and blame us. I am trying to put my mind elsewhere these days and not so much on those details. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs! <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ANewLife4Me, post: 765007, member: 32799"] For me Dad34 it’s easier to read either books or this group here. 😊 I have a support group in my area but, takes a monumental effort to do anything these days. My lifelong issue with depression/anxiety is only compounded by my daughter’s issues. Trying with all I have to break free of this cycle. Hope the book inspires you as it did me. ❤️ You were saying to Copa how you messaged your daughter with no response. 😢 Having tried multiple ways in past to be in my daughters life, the times she did just up and leave us, the time I found her an apartment….she would only contact me when she needed something. Looking back on this just clearly puts into my mind the manipulation, the control they have over us. I think my daughter fed on my need for her, used it against me time and again. My son, who does not have the mental issues his sister does, we had the same relationship. As he is getting older things are changing for us, he realizes what he has been doing all these years and we have a closer relationship now as he figured out the pain he caused me. He has a completely different outlook on his childhood compared to my daughter. Said that his childhood was amazing and he could not have better parents. I am comforted by that as those thoughts of what I did wrong were for nothing. I suspect this is the same with you too. 😊 Because we are blaming ourselves, overthinking each tiny detail, as you said about your last conversation with your daughter, maybe we are not the problem after all much as they try and blame us. I am trying to put my mind elsewhere these days and not so much on those details. 😊 Hugs! ❤️ [/QUOTE]
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