yup more issues for me, i know never ending lately.
i sent her an email last night. she's always been a thorn in our sides. so i had finally had enough after 4 years of keeping my mouth shut and i sent her this.......
just wanted to drop you a quick line to remind you that are you my husband's ex wife, I am the current wife. What animals, etc. we have in our home truly has nothing to do with you besides S and R having new pets. i am very confused as to why you need to question my husband regarding it and why he even bothers to answer. Probably just to get past you and back to texting S. He always has to bypass you to get to kids. It's four years now, it's time to stop. Your confusing S (step daughter) who is being told you still love dad, and he's your best friend. It's hurting her who is only 9 and doesn't get it at all. So, instead of allowing her to process her thoughts you put more on her plate. May seem like a good idea telling her that yet for one it's not true and secondly it's really mixing her up i think. I'm obviously not going anywhere and it's time to either accept my existance or simply ignore me.
I'm your children's step mother whether you like it or not, and love them as if they were my own. yet the continuous ridiculous texts, questions, your financial situation that husband could care less about, feeding S (my step daughter) odd information only hurts your children. It doesnt' affect "our" relationship here. Your just continuing to hurt them over and over again. She spoke to me the other night in confidence, i told husband to tell you. she is confused about you being gay, not happy about your wife punishing her, also is confused why you tell her you love dad and than left him. she also told me you would show her the wedding video, which husband and i both thought would be incredibly harmful to her. I advised S to speak to you regarding the gay issue i can't really help her on that besides to reittarate to her that two ppl of same sex can love eachother its love that matters and respect not the sex of the person, yet i will always be there for her shes a great kid. put them first, and think of the way you act and the affect it has on them. Trust me I've been a parent for 18 years now and still learning. you can bash me on my parenting also thats' fine i dont' care.
husband was going to have a talk with you about this, yet after him telling me what you have been telling S and questioning about why it is we have a puppy for our sick daughter. sheesh lol enough is enough already truly. I'Tourette's Syndrome time to just get over it and move on with your life with C (her now wife). YOU chose this life, remember that. Your very lucky she's a good person
After all this is all about the kids, not me, you, husband or Her Wife. What's best for them should always be considered first. They are your children and I will always respect that and would never say a bad word about you to them. You unfortunately have not done the same through the years, another thing that hurts them not me. Yet you do have to finally be put into your place after four years of absurd behaviors. Texts on wedding nights, on vacation, as soon as we land. I mean come on you dont' see how weird you act? we do. husband won't do it because he's afraid youll bad mouth him to kids again. So, I took the lead. No need to respond or attack me in texts. I've spoken my peace and do wish you and Her Wife well. Just the bs has to end, it's time now. I'm going to be at their graduations, weddings, etc. it's time to let it go and move on. Funny thing is you act as though husband cheated on you with-me! We always sit and shake our heads at you like hmm what is she thinking this time.
also husband and i both thought counseling may help S to just speak to someone and get her stuff out. If you agree, if your schedule doesnt' allow for it i can try inbetween Cs doctor appointments now to fit it in since i literally cant' work now due to her illness.
I hope you take this message the way it was intended and not as an attack, it's just clarifying things a bit and also letting you know about S because you are her mom and should know
I know this was long if you made it thru entire email copied i sent. She has been a problem since beginning. Than other day went on a tyraid because we gota puppy?? it never ends with her and i'm just tired of it. i've never before sent her an email, etc. to say how i feel i felt it was time to get it out there. i won't be responding to any of her responses. just spoke my peace.
do we think this was well written?
i sent her an email last night. she's always been a thorn in our sides. so i had finally had enough after 4 years of keeping my mouth shut and i sent her this.......
just wanted to drop you a quick line to remind you that are you my husband's ex wife, I am the current wife. What animals, etc. we have in our home truly has nothing to do with you besides S and R having new pets. i am very confused as to why you need to question my husband regarding it and why he even bothers to answer. Probably just to get past you and back to texting S. He always has to bypass you to get to kids. It's four years now, it's time to stop. Your confusing S (step daughter) who is being told you still love dad, and he's your best friend. It's hurting her who is only 9 and doesn't get it at all. So, instead of allowing her to process her thoughts you put more on her plate. May seem like a good idea telling her that yet for one it's not true and secondly it's really mixing her up i think. I'm obviously not going anywhere and it's time to either accept my existance or simply ignore me.
I'm your children's step mother whether you like it or not, and love them as if they were my own. yet the continuous ridiculous texts, questions, your financial situation that husband could care less about, feeding S (my step daughter) odd information only hurts your children. It doesnt' affect "our" relationship here. Your just continuing to hurt them over and over again. She spoke to me the other night in confidence, i told husband to tell you. she is confused about you being gay, not happy about your wife punishing her, also is confused why you tell her you love dad and than left him. she also told me you would show her the wedding video, which husband and i both thought would be incredibly harmful to her. I advised S to speak to you regarding the gay issue i can't really help her on that besides to reittarate to her that two ppl of same sex can love eachother its love that matters and respect not the sex of the person, yet i will always be there for her shes a great kid. put them first, and think of the way you act and the affect it has on them. Trust me I've been a parent for 18 years now and still learning. you can bash me on my parenting also thats' fine i dont' care.
husband was going to have a talk with you about this, yet after him telling me what you have been telling S and questioning about why it is we have a puppy for our sick daughter. sheesh lol enough is enough already truly. I'Tourette's Syndrome time to just get over it and move on with your life with C (her now wife). YOU chose this life, remember that. Your very lucky she's a good person
After all this is all about the kids, not me, you, husband or Her Wife. What's best for them should always be considered first. They are your children and I will always respect that and would never say a bad word about you to them. You unfortunately have not done the same through the years, another thing that hurts them not me. Yet you do have to finally be put into your place after four years of absurd behaviors. Texts on wedding nights, on vacation, as soon as we land. I mean come on you dont' see how weird you act? we do. husband won't do it because he's afraid youll bad mouth him to kids again. So, I took the lead. No need to respond or attack me in texts. I've spoken my peace and do wish you and Her Wife well. Just the bs has to end, it's time now. I'm going to be at their graduations, weddings, etc. it's time to let it go and move on. Funny thing is you act as though husband cheated on you with-me! We always sit and shake our heads at you like hmm what is she thinking this time.
also husband and i both thought counseling may help S to just speak to someone and get her stuff out. If you agree, if your schedule doesnt' allow for it i can try inbetween Cs doctor appointments now to fit it in since i literally cant' work now due to her illness.
I hope you take this message the way it was intended and not as an attack, it's just clarifying things a bit and also letting you know about S because you are her mom and should know
I know this was long if you made it thru entire email copied i sent. She has been a problem since beginning. Than other day went on a tyraid because we gota puppy?? it never ends with her and i'm just tired of it. i've never before sent her an email, etc. to say how i feel i felt it was time to get it out there. i won't be responding to any of her responses. just spoke my peace.
do we think this was well written?
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